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writes: I am quite a good student at school, and am respected by my peers in that sense, but at the same time, my friends all like me, and think I am a fun, funny person to be around with. I am always pulling small pranks and just having fun, but balancing my studies at the same time. However, as of late, I have had a really, really strong crush on this guy. He is not too good in studies, being in the same level as me but a year older since he retained last year. His studies had dropped because he picked up smoking. The school's discipline committee doesn't like him and has labelled him as a 'bad boy'. However, we both like each other and he is going to ask me out soon. My friends would freak if they realised I am going out with him, but hopefully will get used to it. I am also afraid he will pull me into smoking. So should I accept when he asks?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 I say go for it - if you both like each other then why not start dating. Your friends might think it is weird and might not be too happy about it but as long as you do not change as a person and he treats you right then they wont mind.
Just remember that your friends will always be there for you and boys will come and go, so even when you do have a boyfriend it is important to find that balance between your friends and your boyfriend. Dont bring him along to all the things you do with your friends as it is important for your friends to not feel like he is stealing you from them! And make sure you dont change yourself just to impress him - dont start smoking this is not cool and will just damage your health. If he offers you a cigarette, just say no thanks but you dont mind if he does. If he tries to push you into smoking then he is clearly not a nice guy to be with!
As long as you know yourself well enough and you feel that you are a strong enough person not to do things you no you shouldnt i.e. smoking, letting your studies fall behind etc, then you will be fine to date this guy. But if you find that you are easily influenced by others then he may not be the best person for you to date.
I hope this helps!
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