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writes:Has anyone on here actually been so scared of love that they ended a relationship? Most people would always see it as an excuse to end the relationship. I believe that people can become so afraid that they end things thinking that the other person would hurt them. They take feelings of hurt from past relationships into the new ones and prepare for the hurt. Once they start preparing for the hurt, they get scared and leave. Even if the relationship is going great, soul mates, ect... A pre-emptive dump??? If it is true that you are scared, would anyone who has felt this please post your reasons for doing something like this. I am sure many readers would find this very intriguing.Has anyone on here actually been so scared of love that they ended a relationship? Why? How did you feel after everything was done? Better? Worse?
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reader, daisydoo  +, writes (25 July 2009):
I have ...I can't decide whether I ended it through fear or because we were not good together. All I know is that I feel pretty sad about it now. I keep going over to his house still. He is very nice about it all. But I don't know what I am doing? I miss him so much but sometimes when I am with him he annoys me so much too. He asked if I wanted to get back together with him and I started panicing...and all these thoughts of me hurting him again came into my mind. I am so scared of hurting people emotionally that I make it happen and end up hurting myself a lot in the process. I guess I felt trapped in the relationship. It's such a horrible feeling...it's like a clautraphobic response to relationships. And I don't know what to do cos what kind of life am I going to have if I can't even have a relationship? Anyway...hope things are ok with you...how did it work out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): hey x yes I've bin scared of love because of past relationships , I've been cheated on soooo many times and treated so badly by past 'lovers' , now I'm in a healthy relationship very loving and good sex relationship but because of what's hppened to me before I get soo scared its going to happen again even tho I know deep down it won't , I've voiced my concern to my boyfriend and he makes me feel better but I still can't help to worry and I'm scared I'm going to end it because of it , if I were you I would think really hard then make a decision and make sure its really what you want x good luck babe x
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (26 December 2008):
 Yes.
Not because of past, but because the first guy was too young, and the next guy was a manipulator.
Felt way better afterwards.
C xxxxx
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reader, Butterflyfly +, writes (26 December 2008):
 I've done it once but then thankfully i learnt better and luckily was offered to opportunity to retry that relationship. As it happens that relationship turned into a destructive one, but I dont regret taking the plunge plus it taught me many many lessons. Don't assume you know what will happen or you know yourself so well that you will get hurt again. you will most definately become wiser and more eperienced.. why cut yourself off from the opportunity of a good elationship only because of the demons in your mind? Life's way too short. I hope you find the courage to embrace this experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): So you let the people who hurt you in the past predict and ruin your future.
No fear.
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