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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was in Paris the last 6 weeks. There I broke up with my boyfriend because I felt bad. I was doing things he would never do. We are muslims. And I was drinking making out with guys...In the last week I invited an old friend to come to visit me in Paris, he came, and I fell for him again... Because I used to like him a few months ago. I got to know him very well in this week. We were living together for one whole week. We were so close, I was never closer to a guy. I did with him things I've never done before. But he said he can't let hisself fall for me before he sees me change, he is convinced I can't stay with one guy, and he saw me doing things, I admit, it was not nice and maybe a bit bitchy. But I'm not like that...Now we are back home. He got back with his ex who is living in another country and I think that he only knows her from internet, it's stupid because he always likes the girls that are far away from him, he told me hisself. I'm really in love with him and we go out normally I said I can stay friends. But I'm suffering from inside I'm not showing it though because I don't want to loose him at all! But he knows very well that I like him a lot. But I am suffering. And I regret that I broke up with my boyfriend in Paris because he was truly in love with me. And I regret I invited the other guy to visit me. And now everything is so complicated. If I would have used my brain and wouldnt have done so much shit in Paris, if I wouldnt have told him to come. Everything would be fine and great now. I wouldnt feel bad, I wouldn't be in love with him and I would be happy with my exboyfriend. Just tell me what could I do ??? I really don't know anymore...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2011): perhaps u need to start respect your body.......being sexual openly in your conservative culture means that you want to run wild when the opportunity presents itself. and that is what u did.
this new guy doesnt want anything with you bec he knew that u gave it away without a moments hesitation. guys like that just want to take, f@ck around and move on. he doesnt want u as a gf bec well, he has seen u at your worse.
as for breaking up with your ex bf.....best move for him. he did not mean anything to you if u moved on sooo quickly. leave your ex be...
as for the present situation, you need to calm down and take stock of your life. do u want o be known as the good time girl who gets with every/any man? do u want a repuation that u , yourself will be ashamed of.
you need to try to understand yourself first.....so no men until u decide that u are worth it and that u are important.
BTW: if i am not mistaken as a Moslem, this is the Holiest Month in the Quran for you. part taking of all "non Islamic" things like alcohol, is considered taboo during this Holy month. ( i have friends who are Moslem)
.........cut off the noise in your life and take stock.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 August 2011):
 I am under the impression that you have lived your life in some sort of seclusion and the ties that bind you are gone when you're away and in a place where those ties are gone, too.
You should take it easy. Breathe in, wait, and make a decision not to do this kind of things again, if that is what you want, that is.
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