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*aksi567
writes:Hi guys, is it wrong that I look at glamour models on website and magazines everyday because it seems the only way to control my urges. It as if I have a high sex drive and I am a virgin, is that a possibility. Obviously, if I met a girl then this would probably stop but how can I resist looking at such gorgeous girls? There are ways, I have tried to take my mind off sex and meeting someone, by going to the gym regularly and curently studying at College. Which I have mentioned on this sight before and hopefully in the near future maybe next year, I will be going to University. I could meet the girl of my dreams there. I have been trying to get a job to give something to do but it is hard considering the economy at the moment. It is not through lack of effort. However, I do chat to girls a lot more, just wish I could go out more but never have any money. So is having a high sex drive good and why do my hormones drive me crazy, is it because of being only 23 years old. Can you guys, give me any advice?
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reader, oaksi567 +, writes (22 April 2013):
oaksi567 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI see your point of view, but after it seems to be an addiction and I would love to stop it. I would also like to go out and meet normal girls in clubs and pubs butmoney is a always an issue. As for dating websites, they cost far too money and there is no guarantee it is going to work out if you meet someone. In fact, whenever I have tried it everyone just ignores me. It's not easy being in my position.
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reader, peanut_gallery  +, writes (22 April 2013):
Pretty women are used to sell things. That can be beer, sex, cars, diet plans etc. They are there to lure you and I'm certain countless thousands spank their monkey to what they consider hot, sexy or glamorous. That's all part of the fantasy.
You say you are 22-25 so the more important question is why do you let your fantasies get in the way of meeting a regular, every day type girl? Even at 22, you should have had ample opportunities to meet and hook up with girls from school, friends etc.
Take it slow, approach women that you find somewhat attractive and go from there. Perhaps you can join a dating site as a starting point. Don't waste your life in a fantasy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2013): "Obviously, if I met a girl then this would probably stop but how can I resist looking at such gorgeous girls?"Realize that these girls don't naturally look this way, and that basically any average girl could transform herself into this with the right amount of money. So there is no point in comparing your future girlfriends to these girls, because it's simply unfair. These girls have: breast implants, labiaplasty, professional makeup done so well it doesn't even look like they're wearing that much, when in fact they are wearing TONS. They also have hair extensions made of actual human hair so it looks like their own, they go tanning regularly so their skin tone is always perfectly even, and on top of that they are professionally photographed, plus their photos are also airbrushed. As for videos, they are made to look better with camera filters, and fabulous light tricks. I too struggled with this before I realized how artificial it really was. There is no "superior" race of humans that looks better than you and me like I once thought. As for what you should do about your high sex drive, just keep on what you're doing, except for the masturbating to "perfect" girls, as this could warp your expectations of what girls should look like, and also keep you from being able to get aroused for "normal" looking girls. Think about it, if you're constantly using what you perceive as perfection for sexual stimulation, how are you ever gonna get aroused for someone "imperfect"? You may not believe it now, but trust me on this one. Just keep reminding yourself it's not real. Switch to looking at pictures of girls who are not models (amateur porn), or use your imagination about someone you are attracted to in real life.
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