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writes:Those Viagra ads are totally misleading! Any idiot can get "in the mood" when two adults are alone in a room (Or in a bathtub!) But with fussy infants, noisy 4 year olds, or prying 13 year olds around, how on earth can ANYONE have the freedom to have noisy sex, or any sex at all? Kids are the result of our love and passion, but they sure (unintentionally, of course) know how to kill a mood or destroy any chance for spontaneous, loud, and free sex in the home. What can you do?There are two distinct paths to fix this problem.Path #1: Get out of the house! While that may be obvious, studies have shown that less than 3% of married couples have EVER gone to a hotel room in their home town. "That's a waste of money," the conservative spouse says (could be you or her). Really? How much is marriage counseling? A two hour tryst in a hotel room is priceless. You are not going to go there every week (But you could!) but for spontaneous, re-light your fire enjoyment, nothing beats having a "fake" affair with your wife. Try it! If it is too uncomfortable the first time, push through your shyness and do it again! Meet her there and close the door quickly. Specific rules and psychological triggers for role playing will be discussed in another article, but trust me, even if at first one of you feels ridiculous, you'll get over it quickly when the clothes come off!Try a drive-in movie and make sure neither of you cares too much about the film. Bring some wine and cheese. Make sure one of you plays hard to get.Do it in your car. Nothing is more spontaneous than having a beautiful dinner out, a bottle of wine, and not being able to make it home before her panties come off. If she is too nervous to do it in the restaurant parking lot, tease her on the way home and do it in your car in your own driveway or garage.Path #2: As the kids get older, they will learn about the birds and the bees. Yes, of course they will figure out where they came from and they will generally be grossed out. Most couples continue to hide their sexuality from their children. Personally, I believe this is wrong. By publicly displaying your love (not your penis) you send a clear message to your kids that husbands and wives love and honor each other. Kiss her in front of the kids. In fact, kiss her passionately in front of them. Letting the children know that their parents are madly in love with each other will actually make them feel more secure.After they realize you "don't care" about them looking away while you make out, you will be less likely to care about any noises coming from the bedroom at night. They already are grossed out. But deep down inside, it makes them feel more secure in their family.A closed bedroom door means only one thing: STAY OUT! As my wife and I went through the process of being more open, we occasionally forgot to lock the door. As fate would have it, ALL 3 kids came in, without knocking on three separate moments during one of our 2 hour sessions! Suffice it to say, we still lock the door as often as possible, but the kids ALWAYS knock, regardless.Your marriage and your sexuality is known by all. Don't hide it. Let your wife know that your marriage is MORE important than their homework. Then, let the kids know (at the level they can understand) that alone time with your wife is the way married couples stay married. ###Doug Steponin has been married for over 20 years and is a expert on living a sexually charged married lifestyle. For more information on creating consistent passion in your life, and how to make your wife hot, visit my site at http://www.makeyourwifehot.com/bragblog
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): to be honest im 14 and its not nice to hear your mum and dad getting at it this is why im downstairs at 11 with my music on full blast atm :P
but ill share my experience i was at my boyfriends house and his family were havin a bbq so his dad was messin round n sat on his mums knee and his mum tickled him and slapped his arse i found it quite funny especially my boyfriends reaction but it taught me something that day jsut coz their older they still love each other and have that erm sexual thing jsut liek me and my boyfriend ( i mean kissing well for me and my bf anyway) do they still want each other physically
but it still really creeps me out when i hear my mum and dad
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reader, ugh101 +, writes (6 July 2009):
 yea he will lke pat her butt and say that he loves her or call her beautiful. Just they dnt kiss in front of me. I wouldnt feel totally confortable if they had been making out in front of me. But i get whats the point that you are trying to mke.
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reader, makeyourwifehot +, writes (6 July 2009):
makeyourwifehot is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo not see love, affection, or kissing from your parents imprints a child to repeat the behaviors when they are adults.
I totally respect the youths opinion on my article and do not judge their parents decision to not show affection publicly.
I was raised differently. My dad openly told my mom how he loved her, he would hug her, pat her bottom and kiss her in front of the kids. I never thought it was creepy or odd. I found it supportive and it gave me comfort when I saw them fight occassionally!
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reader, ugh101 +, writes (6 July 2009):
Umm id rather not hear mi parents gettin at it. Nor do they need to make out n front of me. and they dnt. my dad may say something umm dirty (not rlly but i dnt no how to decribe it) to mi mom but no kissing. that is a private and intimate thing. and i have never seen them kiss. and they have been married for 30 yrs.
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reader, makeyourwifehot +, writes (1 July 2009):
makeyourwifehot is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the comment.
From a kids perspective, I appreciate the readers comments. Anything that creeps you out just does. Parents need to respect that.
Showing affection is permissable. Deep embraces may be uncomfortable, but when you are married you will want that same comfort and love from your spouse.
As far as "walking in" on them...that is not good. We didn't do it on purpose, and the kids all learned their lesson! (as did we about the door locked)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): To be honest as a child speaking I think that walking in on your mum and dad or seeing them making out is a bit creepy.It gives them a sexual life from an early age i think seeing their parents make out all the time.i dont feel as though it would make me feel more secure more as a bit strange as youd be making out with your wife in front of your little kids.dont you think thats a bit odd?
however apart from that it was a good article and an interesting read.thankyou
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