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writes:I have had a male best friend for 6 years. There has always been a sexual tension and we both have always been attracted to each other but have kept it platonic/ PG13 because I think we both knew we were scared and not ready to explore that side of our friendship. We trust each other, respect each other and genuinely like being in each others company.This past weekend we slept together. Out of no where it kinda just happened. We both didn't hold back and it just happened. Now I am not sure how to handle it, what to say, what it means? I am not sure what I want to happen but I definitely know I don't regret it and I don't think he does either.What to do? Could it be something long lasting or was I just another girl.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (27 June 2012):
 In my experience, if a guy really likes you and wants, and is ready for a "serious" relationship with you, he will make it known. Sex is not proof of serious feelings and intentions from a guy, close friend or otherwise. The only way to find out is to initiate a conversation about the sex. A similar situation happened to me, I asked if we could chat about it, clear the air. He reacted as if I was being childish and it was just a drunken thing, bound to happen one day. So, be prepared, he could act like a d*ck about it. But anything is better than that right? He could actually talk to you like a responsible adult and friend. If you 2 are good friends you will work it out. If he has strong feelings, it may develop. Or you both might just realize you are better as friends. Only time will tell. Just try taking a deep breath and get on with life. Things will fall into their rightful place.
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reader, Charter114 +, writes (26 June 2012):
If he truly wanted to, and he's had feelings for you...then your not just another girl...I recommend further exploring your relationship...it will hopefully lead to good things. Don't make it awkward, and just face it like you would normally, and talk about it in a relaxed setting. Don't let it become a big deal.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (26 June 2012):
 Well, I would hope that it does become a longterm relationship that possibly leads to marriage. Why not? You have stated many of the best things about a hopefully lifelong relationship, such as being best friends and enjoying each other's company. I agree that you should begin serious discussions about the future and find out if he is open to such a serious relationship. But the word "serious" is really not the right word because of its implication. Having fun and enjoyment in life is what it;s all about. Just see if he is wanting all this to go on with you, and decide if so for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2012): I think, to be on the safe side, you need to arrange to meet up with him for a sit down and a serious talk about things. Either you two can put it down to a possibly silly mistake and not talk about or mention it again; say it was just a bit of fun between two friends ('friends with benefits' (FWB)); or it could very possibly be the start of something perhaps truly amazing and you two could end up being together.During this talk, you could ask him things, like how he feels after it (surely a very important question(!)), what it meant to him, and other pertinent questions. He may have his own questions for you too, which you probably ought to answer truthfully.Another alternative, if you can't really face sitting down to talk about it, might be just to carry on like normal for now, and see how he acts around you now. If something else happens, and you're happy for it to, then let it. If nothing else happens, then nothing else happens and that was that.But, to be honest, it does sound to me as if you two may be very happy together if you do get together, so why not?!!Hope this helps, and good luck!
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (26 June 2012):
 Shouldn't you be having this conversation with him? The only way you're going to really know is through discussion - with eachother.
Good luck.
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