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writes:A question more for curiosity than experience:My boyfriend and I have been on and off for around a year and a half. I'd say, of those eighteen months, we've together cumulatively seven or eight months. I love him, despite our broken relationship. Anyway, I don't want to have sex until I'm married. If the time's right before that, then so be it, but that's my ideal.I'm rather interested in sleeping with my boyfriend. Not having sex--literally sleeping together. Completely innocent. I just like to be with him and he makes me feel safe and happy. Is this an unreasonable desire?We have both agreed that we aren't ready for sex psycologically and in our relationship. Would this be asking for trouble? Would the temptation be too much to handle?If we decided that this was what we wanted, I know our parents would be unlikely to go for it, but if we were to calmly sit down and discuss it with them, how could we approach it?Thanks so much!--GG(we're in high school, if that's of any significance)
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (12 January 2010):
GoGreen126 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would also like to add that while I was on vacation last summer, he came to stay with me and my family. He stayed in a room with my brother and two cousins, and I was in a room with my baby sister. I was pleasantly surprised at how trusting they were--that's not really alike to their tendencies whatsoever.
If those few nights, we fell asleep together several times, but never for more than a couple of minutes.
Thanks!
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (10 January 2010):
GoGreen126 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your comments! What you said was what I thought, but I just wanted some affirmation.I know this makes no difference, but I'm gonna be 16 in a few days--so 13-15 is a bit misleading. =)--GG
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010): I don't have anything to add to what CaringGuy said, just want to complement on how well written your question is. Questions by 13-15 year olds are usually a mess, with no punctuation whatsoever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010): at 13 - 15 i don't think your parents are likely to go for it at all, if you had a brother then your boyfriend could perhaps bunk with him but i don't think they'd let him sleep with you. I was a virgin at 19 and i used to allow my boyfriend to sleep over for cuddles and long talks etc through the night ... one key thing agreed upon was that my door would always be open when he was there. And do you know what, we didn't do a thing besides the odd make out session :) people can sleep together without having sex however at the age you are, i don't think your parents are going to agree. Perhaps when its warm, go for a pinic in your local park and snuggle up on the blanket with lots of people alot. Its cozy yet still avoiding temptation completely. Remember you want to finish high school - potential risking getting knocked up may alter that.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 January 2010):
You might be a good girl, and might not at first want to do anything other than sleep. But he only has to make a move and suddenly temptation will be too much to handle. And being a male, I know that he will be more than tempted with his hormones at his age, no matter what he says. It only take the right look, and the right moment, and that's it. So I think you are asking for trouble doing this, and I'm certain your parents will say no to it as well. It's great that he makes you safe and happy. So cuddle up on the sofa during the day, spend time together and such. But don't sleep together, because something might happen.
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