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writes: My sister (she's 14 and I'm 17) just told me that she's pregnant by her boyfreind (also 17) and wants me to take her to the adoption clinic so she doesn't have tell our parents. We have been really close and I'll always be there for her but I'm complately againist it, cause a mother shouldn't be able to deny her own child (not that I'm saying I approve that my sister made the dumbest mistake ever). What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, 2dareANDdream  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 I have had my child young, dropped out of school and got prego again. I have also went through the adoption process. If you need some help from first person and you have some questions, feel free to write me, I am very open about my story and willing to help anybody who is considering adoption.
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reader, problems_n_answers +, writes (7 December 2008):
I have been in her shoes, and its not easy. I also never wanted to get an abortion. I thought that since it was my choice to get pregnant it was my responsablity to keep it. I think that at this point you just have to talk to her and see if that is what she really wants to do. Maybe something like adoption would be an option.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): hey i am 14 to and i think the only time someone should kill a baby is when they know for a fact that they cant care of it and know they cant go through labor. and i think another time is that when a girl gets raped and they end up pregnant, they shouldn't go through labor or the stress full time of being pregnant because it is not their fault. i think that u shouldn't take her because she doesn't want ur mom n dad to know, that is NOT a good enough reason to take her but it is ur choice good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): Adoption or abortion can be one of the most stressful times in a person's life. Luckily I'm 14 and have a baby by my 17 year old boyfriend and when he was born I gave him up for adoption but when I got out of hospital I realised I had just made the biggest mistake of my life. I rung the social services and they said they hadn't found anywhere for him to go yet so I could have him back. Kallum is nearly 1 now and I think you should ask her why she don't want to keep it? Your parents will find out because she will be stressed and upset all of the time having being given an abortion. There are millions of people out there that want kids and can never have them. She could have it and give it up for adoption rather than killing it! That way she doesn't have to go through an abortion and a lovely couple who want kids but can't have them get a child to be theirs and to love. My boyfriend was adopted at birth and is in touch with his birth mother and has been since he was born. There is an adoption term that you can give your baby away but see it a few times a week/a month.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): You need to tell your parents. At her age she can't really understand how selfish she is. This baby needs to be raised by his/her true family. She has no right to talk about adoption after making a dumb mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): First, you mean abortion clinic, right? I understand that you are against it but it's not really your decision. It's a decision your sister is going to have to live with. I assume that she will get some counseling at the clinic to help her understand her decision. Do you really want your 14 year old sister to have a baby now? There is nothing wrong with telling your sister that you are against abortion but that you are going to respect and support her decision. I'd take her to the clinic if that is what she really wants; I'd support her through what is probably a difficult and scary time; and then I would go kick the crap out of her idiot boyfriend.
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