Shall I stay with my bf when I can not satisfy him with deepthroat?

A female age 36-40, *rnava writes:

I have been with my bf for two years. We love eachother but last year there has been a sexual issue which has become big mental problem for me. Like 1 year ago he told me that the most exciting thing in the world is deepthroat. Well, ok, I haven´t been quite happy about that he loves it because I have very very weak stomach and very strong gag reflex. Anyway, over a year I practise it on him and I still can not do it. We discuss it over and over again. He told me he does not mind I don´t do it but he would love if I could do it. Well I just can´t. I have been practising on banana, toothbrush, on him like 4 times a week (over a year!) and I usually trow up ( how exciting). It doesnt matter what I read on the net, I follow all advices, we change positions, nothing helps, I just get totally sick when I do it. It has gone so far that I totally hate practising „it“ on his penis because I feel stupid that I threw up several times. I told him I will not practise for a while (just to save my sexual appetite) and will practise with banana for example. He was ok with that but yesterday before sex I just wanted to give him oral sex and he told me not do it at all when it is not deepthroat. He said it would just make him too excited and he would only want deepthroat. Then he said that we shall face it and I will never be probably able to do it (he did not say it like an a**hole, he just said it). He made me really angry. I asked him why he cant just enjoy what I do , no matter how ( I try my best!), and he said that he wants to be appreciated by getting deepthroat. I mean- what the hell? I love him, we have been together so long , I appreciate him, respect him and he tells me this. I am really desperate. Can not stop thinking about that I will never probably be able to satisfy him and it makes me just feeling useless and honestly, angry at him that he cant just say „ its enough what you do, just continue doing it that way“. I feel like breaking up with him because I would be rather if he found a woman that will satisfy him completely. He is a kind guy, he obviously does not build this relationship on deepthroat but I just feel stupid and can´t imagine we will continue this relationship without something he totally loves – and with me thinking I am just totally useless gf.

View related questions: oral sex

Reply to this Question

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, Trnava  +, writes (4 August 2010):

1 2 3 4 5

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, shania  +, writes (13 May 2010):

1 2 3 4 5

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, Trnava  +, writes (13 May 2010):

1 2 3 4 5

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, logarixe  +, writes (13 May 2010):

1 2 3 4 5

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, crissyj89  +, writes (12 May 2010):

1 2 3 4 5

<-- Rate this answer

A male reader, connor sloane  +, writes (11 May 2010):

1 2 3 4 5

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, shania  +, writes (11 May 2010):

1 2 3 4 5

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, Trnava  +, writes (11 May 2010):

1 2 3 4 5

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, shania  +, writes (10 May 2010):

1 2 3 4 5

<-- Rate this answer

A male reader, dirtball  +, writes (10 May 2010):

1 2 3 4 5

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, sammyo  +, writes (10 May 2010):

1 2 3 4 5

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2010):

1 2 3 4 5

<-- Rate this answer