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writes:Whenever my gf talks to me, 3 out of 5 times, she will talk about sex. The way she likes to do it and showed related porn to me. It has been months she stopped talking about those. I thought she is having problem or depression. But, she doesn't.I think woman views sex different than man. They only do it or think of doing it with the man she loves. I am worried that she may have lost interest to have sex with me. Which might implies she doesn't love me.I tried to talk to her about this. She avoided the question. What could have happened?And we now live far. We don't meet each other. Not even once a month. Do you think it is normal when she never tries to contact me the whole day?
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (16 August 2008):
 So the only thing you two talked about was sex? Sorry, but that's just bad communication. Clearly just talking about sex would cease since it's such a small topic.
And no, you're wrong. Some women, even the ones who are in a relationship, would fantasize about having sex with other people. How dare you say that just because she has stopped talking about sex that she has stoped loving you? You clearly don't know your girlfriend NOR women minds. Humans are not black and white! Just because you have a stereotyped image of a woman doesn't mean that your girlfriend will fall into the same barrel!
Probably what happens to her is that she is depressed for living too far apart from you. You said it, you two would see each other once a month if lucky. When someone is depressed, they tend to stop talking and lose interest in many things. You're an adult and I bet that you do have free days at your job. Why don't you take one of those days to go visit her? That would probably boost her confidense and mood. You could do this by surprise or tell her before hand, but if you tell her before hand, actually do visit her because if you break your compromise, she will be even more depressed.
And it might not be normal for her not to call you the whole day, but remember that she's also an adult with adult things to. She might not even have time to do so.
Even though I suggested for you to visit her, that might not be the solution. There could be many things that could have happened for her to act like this, but my guess is that she's depressed for not seeing you often.
Good luck
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