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female
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30-35,
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writes: love my boyfriend of a year and a half. The problem is that I've never felt a real "spark" when we kiss. I never have with anyone else. And yes I was attracted to him physically and all the other ways. He gave me shivers when he touched me and that was good. I also feel something when he kisses my neck and ears. I'm a super anxious person who over analyzes and suffers from an anxiety disorder. I've had some other bad kissing experiences with other guys. So is it possible im overthinking the kisses? Could I be trying to hard to feel something and so it's not happening? Like searching for the spark too much? In the beginning when we kissed i was always so worried how i was kissing and if i was doing it right. I never could let go and just feel the kiss without my mind going everywhere and analyzing the kiss. Now that im more comfy with him i dont worry as muich if im doing it right, I now worry about why there isn't a spark so now when we kiss all i can think about is where is that spark...so could i be ruining it by not being in the moment? When going in for a kiss, my mind id literally thinking, "ok, try to feel something"....then I don't just let myself feel the feel of my lips on his and cant channel any love into it because im too busy worrying about the darn spark, lol!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): The Kiss is very important!!! If there is no spark now, it probably will never be that great. I know, I have been married 26 years, and I had the same issue when we met.
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