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41-50,
*lexandro
writes:I have been single for just over two years. In this period I have dated six women, which I have not stayed with for more than a month. Before I became single, I was with my ex for 2 and half years. We broke up over a argument and never spoke again. I have days where I think about her, where she is, who she is with and sometimes I want her back. Deep down, I know we will never meet again. I feel very lonely and want to move on. I just can't find someone I am attracted too or get on with. Most girls I've met in the past, I seem to run a mile from them. This is the longest period of time I have been single in my life. I sound mixed up. I just don't know how to move forward.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (21 August 2011):
 Dear Anom,
It is always difficult dating and finding the right person. I myself was in a relationship that ended bitterly after 7 years. Because of pressure from friends a year after that I started dating but none seem to work out or last even up to a month. I was still caught up in my last relationship. It took me up to 3 years later until I met my husband. We started out as just friends and he gained my trust after a few months.
I am afraid everyone is different and some people move foward faster than others. Who knows you might meet the right person tomorrow but you have to let go of the past.Take things at a steady pace. Dont worry too much about being single for now, keep the search going!
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KellyO
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (21 August 2011):
Make the whole plan for the whole distance. Figure out what sort of woman you want, what she is like and what needs she fulfills for you. Decide if you want to be married, have kids, where you want to live, what kind of house and what kind of activities you would enjoy together. Really be specific.
Hold that image in your mind, and let it guide your actions.
Talk about it with the women you date.
To find this woman, go somewhere that you think a woman like this might go. If you want someone religious, go to church. If you want someone intellectual, go to the library. You get the picture.
And make sure that you ARE the person who will make them happy too. In other words, its not realistic to want a millionaire if you are a minimum wage worker.
Best of luck to you.
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