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*avanna
writes:how do i remain happy about being prego when he is so unhappy. he said that he will be okay just take time but i feel him slipping away from me. we dont talk like we use to we dont smile are snuggle. im wonder if i should kill my first child. like have and abortion are sumthing. im so unhappy knowing that he is upset unhappy and sad about me being prego with his first kid. im only 2 n a half months. should i just have a abortion and let things go back to the way the were when he was happy and so was i. i feel like if i keep the baby he'll walk away from me and only be here for the kid. i wont mean anything to him at all just a baby mother to his kid. he said not to pay him any attention but how could i no when it feels like the love of my life is fading away from me im scared plz if u have any ideas on what i should do plz help crying deep with in
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reader, Kavanna +, writes (7 September 2009):
Kavanna is verified as being by the original poster of the question i have found all of your answers very helpful to mandy i am sorry for what u had to go thro and to everyone else thank you for showing me the light in the eyes i once had but i some how lost sight for that moment but i am happy to say that he has came around and is very happy that we are haven a child soon and i am so happy that there are a group of wonderful ppl on here to help me and others when were in the time of need... im now 8 weeks and very happy imm i just wanted to say thanks becuase with out hereind the wise words from all of you ill be still stuck are lost. xoxo vanna
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reader, foreveralways  +, writes (6 September 2009):
this is a very hard time for you and i bet it is confusing too but if a little part of you wants to keep the babyy then i say do not have the abortion cuz later on you will regret it and wonder how the baby would have looked and so on but if you are 100 percent sure you do not want any thing to do with the baby then i guess have the abortion but even after if you do things will never be the same between you and your boyfriend. at this moment it is not what he wants im sure he will come around he just needs time to process the whole situation!! i hope this helped!!
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reader, califnan +, writes (6 September 2009):
 You are thinking of now.. But you will come to realize that relationships come and go .. but this beloved baby that has come from God - is your child.. Yours to keep and to love forever .. The baby's heart was formed right after conception.. Trust me, this baby will be a blessing to you..
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (6 September 2009):
 First of all, I've always been against abortion, regardless of the circumstances, so not sure if my advice is the best.But what I can guarantee you is that if you do decide to get an abortion, hoping things will go back the way they were, they won't. Nothing ever goes back the way it was - you and your guy will think about you being pregnant; it will never just go away. So if you decide to get an abortion, please don't let the number one reason be that you hope that you got one, things will go back they way they were, cause they won't.Just try to talk to him and if he still seems like he won't support you having a child, again, this is 100% your decision (you know what I would do), but whatever you decide, do it without him, since it seems right now he doesn't want to be a part of things.Good luck!
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (5 September 2009):
 Hi Hunny
This is something quite personal,You have to think very carefull about what YOU!!!!Want.
Having an abortion is not easy pain free and so out of the way as the word may seem...When I was young and I mean 16 I found myself pregnant, This was after the first time Id had sex...My mother realising after a few months, Called in the doctor and it was completely taken out of my hands..I had no choice, The doctor asked me if it was what I wanted but no it really was not..But at that age I had to go through what I can only describe as a terrible experience..I no I was young and I no I was not prepared but it was a horrible feeling...This my love will stay with you so you really do have to think very seriously about this and how it may affect your future...Your b/f is worried, There maybe very real worrys as life is not easy now money wise, And children do take alot of your time up..But please dont do this to make someone else happy..Think very carfully and do what you feel is right for you....If you need to talk hunny please message me and I will try to help anyway I can..PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU SWEETHEART WITH LOVE AND HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXX
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