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writes:So I am about to be 18 in a month, and ive had this friend since I was 14. She's been a great friend and we dont get to see each other often so we just talk alot on the computer. I found out last night that she hung herself the night before and no one knows why, and this pain feels unbearable. I lost a friend 2 weeks ago because she shot herself in the head, but this is no comparison, I loved this girl with everything I had. And now im having all these thoughts that I cant control, and I have no idea what to do :| Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): So sorry.. Take care of yourself, and go to counseling.It s very very tragic,and you need to take care of this well, it is a trauma. Treat it well . Hugs
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 September 2009):
 Victim support, it might sound strange since you might not think of yourself as a victim but you are. They murdered themselves and you lost them because of it. There really isn't that much difference if they had been killed by a car accident or a killer.
Get some help. Because you don't know how to deal with it, but the proffesionals do.
Don't try to cope with this on your own. Not to be alarmist, but that is what your friend did, and it didn't work.
So talk to someone. Anyone.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (6 September 2009):
 I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I had more to say to you. But, here are two websites that are very helpful:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/suicide/MH00048
http://www.survivingsuicide.com/cope.htm
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): Hi. I truly am sorry for your loss, I lost a close friend of mine last year right before my exams and I completely dissociated myself from everything. I think at this stage, you must have a lot of questions and feel very confused, depressed and angry too at the fact that you never picked up on any issues under the surface. But I think you should realise that you were there for this girl you loved so much and she loved you too. You and her were both lucky to have shared many memories and moments which I'm sure you won't forget. In fact it would hurt her if she realised how much this has affected you. Give it time, turn to art, poetry or something productive to channel your pain. My friend loves animals so I set up a WWF donation in her name. Best of luck my dear and my sincere condolensces
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): I am so sorry to hear that you have lost 2 of your friends. It is a terrible thing to experience. When I was in middle school a guy that I knew hung himself, and it was very difficult for me and for many others.
As with everything else, over time the heart heals. I know you may be having bad thoughts right now, but I promise it will get better. This is not something that is going to happen over night... so surround yourself with people you trust for guidance. Sometimes just being around people can help tremendously.
If that doesn't help, but I'm sure it will... there is always the option of speaking with a counselor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): I'm not even going to pretend to slìghtly comprehend the agony ýou're experiencing but I think you should always hold her memory close to your heart and never let it go. Talk to someone about the thoughts you mentioned and remember that talking about your pain will ease it.Seek compfort from your family and ofcourse you can come back to us no matter what. I just want to say I have never felt as much for someone on this site as I do for you and I feel so helpless but my prayers go out to you. God Bless.
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reader, KaleenaC +, writes (6 September 2009):
 Thats sad. The thing to do is just keep livving ur live and there was nothing you could do. Your friends probably had something bothering them that they that if they told u, they couldn't see you in as much pain as they were.
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