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writes:What are subtle signs of sexual tension between two people? I'm talking about the little things they do, stuff that isn't as obvious or not talked about a lot.And how will they act around each other if they are trying to hide/resist the tension? If you're in a group, can others sense if there's tension, even though the two are trying to hide it? Reply to this Question
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reader, missy_25  +, writes (12 November 2014):
I won't answer the earlier question since they've elaborated on it quite well but there is this answer to your last question: Others who are observant about your interaction will do notice the tension or chemistry even if you try to hide it. Apparently, it's the little things that give you away. The smile after your eyes meet. The giggle and poking or laughter even if you're in a group, it just seemed like you two are in your own world. You don't notice it but they will. Apparently, our body language reveals more about how we truly feel without us realizing it. Same way with how we react around someone we like vs. someone we don't. It is more apparent than you think.It's a great great feeling and definitely worth exploring once you find that connection if the the circumstances are right. If they're not right (meaning one is married etc.) then I would caution you to avoid that person before it leads to something detrimental. the earlier the better.But that's my 2cents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2014): You're welcome. Glad to help. Well... Yes, guys do stare. They find many women physically attractive and it is perfectly natural. And, yes, they can sneak glances and have their eye on her. BUT you need to also look beyond that part. Whether or not there is more. In my experience, guys can be intimidated if they find her just attractive and that's it or like her more than a friend.. but again... you need to see where it goes from there. The only way to know for sure if the guy likes you more than physically is to see if he makes any moves on you. Does he ask you out? Because the cat and mouse thing can only last for so long. It will reach a point where either something happens or you move on. Or if you think there is interest, maybe you can open it up for him. Make him feel more comfortable around you... so that he will find the confidence to ask you out. Most guys fear rejection. Or you can ask him. Something casual like coffee. Some guys may like you but may not want to be in a relationship with you. Know there is that option. But it is possible he is interested in more. We women are usually right about these things. We have this sixth sense that kicks in when a man is interested in us romantically. We just know. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2014): I was once attracted to a guy who was not available (neither was I) but we had a lot of sexual tension. While we had a great connection, in front of others we could barely utter a word to each other, and when left alone with each other, he turned his back to me and did dishes while I stood in the background! It was awkward!! Sexual tension feels ''heavy'' and uncomfortable. The absence of conversation is not attributed to a lack of interest, quite the contrary. You also can't face the person in front of others because there is something ''unspoken''. For a while, I thought it was all in my head and that perhaps I was imagining things, but if something feels off and you have previously had a shared moment/glance/smile, then it is likely sexual tension and neither you or the other can or are able to do something about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2014): That's a great list thank you!
Do you think that some men may just be 'intimidated' by a girl, thinking she's smart and attractive and act this way as well, but not have any sexual feelings/tension with her?
Or does intimidated usually always mean attraction? That's the hard thing I'm trying to figure out...
But I guess if he always has his eye on her, sneaking glances, he can't just find her fascinating, there has to be some kind of attraction right? Or will guys stare and do all this to a girl they just find very 'interesting'?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2014): The signs are:Lots of eye contact but then looking awayEven when talking to others, always looking over at that person to see what they are doingSmiling a lot at themLong, locked eye contactActing nervousLaughing a lot around themGiddyTrying to say impressive things around them or wanting to get their attentionGenerally they will try to avoid each other and talk to others because they feel uncomfortable but their eyes are always landing on each otherThey can be clumsy around each other and sometimes not know what to sayThey may feel embarassedThe electricity between them has a life of its own.They still hang around in close proximity of each otherBut may not always be talkingUsually a guy will be checking out the girl while she is not looking. He will smile a lot at her. He will want to be close to her. You will always find him within close range. He will be interested in what she has to say. He will get nervous in her presence.I think others can sense it if the two people are interacting a lot with each other. Signs will present themselves even when they try to hide them. But others will never know for sure of course or know the depth of the feelings. You can always dismiss your thoughts and think, Nah, I am imagining it. And you can also think, wow, these two have something going. So depends on their thinking.
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