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writes: This doesn't really pertain to the usual relationship advice but it has to do with college rommmates. I'll be moving into an apartment for the first time next month. I was randomly matched with two other girls to be roommmates. Well after I signed the lease and was given their names. I facebooked them.It turns out both these girls are good friends with a girl I went to Highschool with. A girl who was very mean to me. I have a feeling I'm in for a bad time. I'm really upset and I wouldn't have signed the lease if I had known these girls were such great friends with this mean girl from my Highschool.At first I thought it would be alright and I befriended these girls on Facebook leaving them both a message about how I was going to be their roommate. I expected that they'd e'mail me back to get to know me or to discuss buying things for the apartment but they didn't say a word to me. Maybe I'm overreacting. I'm just really nervous to be living with them. They are already good friends plus they are good friends with this other girl. I was hoping to have good friends in my roommates and now I'm worried that won't happen.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Being good friends with your roommates is overrated, sometimes it is easier if you aren't that close. As long as everyone stays friendly, you usually don't have problems. I've lived with people I was close with, and complete strangers, both have their ups and downs. One thing is certain, I'd much rather bitch out a random roommate for bill money than a good friend. Sometimes our friends take advantage of us too, so be careful.
Ultimately, you may end up being friends with them. People often mature a lot in college. It will be a time for you to redefine who you are. If it turns out that you can't stand living there, it usually isn't too difficult to find someone to sublease from you (this is where someone else takes over the remainder of your lease). That kind of thing goes on a lot in college.
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