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writes:Hi, i read a post about a brother and sister having sex, at first i thought it was wrong but a lot of the replys where people that have had sex with there siblings and enjoyed it, and didn't have any long turm negative effects from it.Now i can't stop thinking about having sex with my brother, we are both sexualy active and nether of us have partners so i can't see why it would be so wrong.I was wondering if your a girl have you tried 2 have sex with your brother? how did you go about it? and how it worked out and affected you growing up? Or if your a guy and your sister came onto you how did she go about it? What did you do and think? And how has it affected you? Reply to this Question
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reader, jgregp  +, writes (9 September 2012):
Ok young lady,
A couple of years ago I took a Genetics course in college, and two things were brought out about incestuous couplings. One, the incidence of birth defects was no greater than non-incestuous matings. Two, within the Ottoman empire incest was an approved practice as it was seen better than breeding "down" in society. The only noted birth defect was a prevalence of Hemophilia. Lastly, your lust for your Brother is as old as the bite out of the first apple. He is the "forbidden fruit."
The one real negative I see in your plan is psychological. One of you will likely have a change of heart at some point and guilt is an overwhelming burden. Unless you live a thousand miles away from any other possible partners, I recommend you continue to masturbate over this fantasy and wait for a more socially appropriate partner. Hell, your chances of getting messed up over a non-blood relative is just as good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): No not your brother, you will never see him the same way again. Brothers are there to protect you and make sure that his mates dont take advantage of you, are you prepared to lose that. How will you feel at your wedding knowing you slept with him. Your parents dont need to deal with this, and your brother will move on and find a girlfriend eventually, and you will end up very confused. What happens if he says NO, and tells your parents. You need to forget it.
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (30 July 2009):
 Why on this EARTH would you want to have sex with your brother? Having sex with your brother sweety is illegal and just plain WRONG. Your only young so i can see why you would easily be confused, however don't do it. It's really simple. If you feel your ready to have sex, find yourself a long term partner then take things from there. However do not rush into sex with anyone. If you was to have sex with your brother, the police would get involved and if you was to become pregnant the baby would be deformed. Wipe this idea from your head.
Good luck darling .
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reader, Asian! +, writes (29 July 2009):
Don't. Its creepy and illegal. What more do you need to know to make a decision?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): sounds like you still want sex when your not in a relationship...so get a f*ck buddy!
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reader, ceme +, writes (29 July 2009):
Really, I don't do it. It'll ruin your entire family and the whole generation you might be starting. If you start this practice, it will affect your children's behavior on living their lives.
I've read alot of post about incests too and they generally have the same path as their parents. - Do not start.
You will surely regret it later if you're not married to him in the end.
don't you think your family is already beautiful the way it is?
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reader, Knight_in_White_Satin  +, writes (28 July 2009):
 GinsengMeow has very neatly sumarised how to make the arguements in a none bias way. Have you studied law or critical thinking????
To the topic- Incest in illegal in your country, mainly due to the increased possibility of birth defects in any children producted by the match, so should you decide to follow through with this idea then if you're found out then you could both go to jail.
secondly you've been raised as family, a brother and sister, this generally means that you squabble,tattle on each other, compete with each other and stick up for one another. Not that you should have sexual relations, the bible i know for a fact states that a man should not have relations of a sexual nature with his sister, and vice versa for a woman. I'm not saying that the bible is entirely right or wrong, i am merely pointing out a fact, and it can be said that the people who wrote them tended to put most things in for a reason.
Also think of the social stigma this will have on both you, your brother and your family.
However if you're determined to try ask your brother what he thinks of the subject- if he agrees with most of the posts here you'll have your answer- he'll also be likely to never percieve you in the same way again- you'll have jepordised your relationship with him on a pure whim of getting laid whilst been on the market; If he doesn't agree- well you'll have your answer.
But please, I advise you strongly against this path.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): OMG this is sick!! Even thinking about shagging any relative is sick! EWWWWW! Its just wrong!
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (27 July 2009):
 Three things:Incest is illegal in nearly all countries.If you were to get pregnant the baby could suffer from serious defects because the pairs of chromosomes are too similar.Family isn't there for sex. A lot of people don't believe in it for religious reasons. Others just because it feels very wrong, to the vast majority it never crosses a person's mind because it's unnatural.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): I would also like to add that another 'problem' is that most sub-societies (countries and their cultures) deem incest as illegal. Therefore, you cannot 'practice' incest without breaking the law. There are however some countries in the world that allow this such as: Belgium, Brazil, France (unless you plan to marry), the Netherlands, Portugal and Sweden to name a few.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Incest is socially unacceptable in common society. It is 'wrong' coinciding personal 'morals' that conform to that same common social 'moral'. Common society create social morals that 'protect' an ideal of a greater 'good'. Therefore, it is only 'wrong' if it pertains to the safeguard of the ideal of the greater good, created by common society.Incestual pro-creation can also cause birth defects. However, there is misinformation here. The factor of "having a baby with a sibling will mean the child is born with serious birth defects and will be very ill" is actually inaccurate. The percentage of an incestual-induced birth is higher than that of a non-blood related birth, but that does not mean all babies or most babies from incestual births will come out defective and ill. The science behind this has to do with hereditary traits and illnesses (genetic diseases) passed down from generation to generation. Those that are closely blood related will have a much higher chance in causing birth 'defects' coinciding our hereditary past. =====Ultimately, this is a personal choice. Many in common society, as you can see from the answers here in this thread and many others throughout this web site and others, are passionately against incestual relationships, even if no pro-creation is involved. A lot of the knowledge these same people have are biased, misinformed and conforming to a common social 'moral'. This is not wrong on their part, but it does limit the minority outside the majority. This causes the minority to be shunned, cast away, denied their rights and freedoms and violence to be justified. This lesson reminds us that there were once coloured people who could not share the same restaurants and busses as white people in the USA. This lesson reminds us that women were once not considered humans and could not vote in Canada. This lesson reminds us that at the moment, many of us are fighting for the rights and freedoms that homosexual relationships should have. Indeed, incestual relationships do bring a larger chance of birth defects if the couple ever want to have children. The common social 'moral' that governs this has to do with protecting the future of the child that comes out into this world either as a) a reject shunned by the same people that shun such a relationship or b) a defect that has physical and possibly even mental issues.Though I personally would not engage in an incestual relationship with my sister, I am not against this personal choice. However, be warned that incestual births do have a much higher chance of receiving birth defects of varying levels. There is also a chance that birth defects won't happen. However, unlike all of the people that have answered here, birth defects does not happen 100% of time. The biggest problem with a census on birth defects with incestual relationships has to do with the limited poll and study of such relationships. =====I believe my explanation allows the original poster a lot less bias and more open knowledge in incestual relationships. It's one thing to personally say "it's wrong" but if you cannot explain it, then your words are just as good as dust in the wind. You must be able to not only back up your words, but also prove a point FOR AND AGAINST the subject. Social morality is subjective and constantly changing over the generations. Indeed, health is important but we cannot be so bold to say "it is wrong, because it just is" without detailing why it's wrong and whether it really is wrong or does it just simply conform to a 'greater' ideal.Many people are unwilling to tap into discussions, thoughts, ideas like this because these people are also unwilling to expand their minds. Humanity cannot progress with dead end answers. We must unify our thoughts and expand outwards to many branches of "whys" and "hows". Things are only "sick" because you have been socially conformed to such ideals. I'm pretty sure a lot of people think homosexuality is "sick", but I do not. I recognize health hazards, but I cannot say it's "sick". It is not my place to say it. I can only give an opinion and suggestions.Key is: unbiased knowledge, followed by branches of pros and cons, concluded with suggestions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Can someone tell the poor girl EXACTLY why it is wrong? Everyone here is saying it's wrong but no-one seems capable of explanation. Well?
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (27 July 2009):
 First of all, sex with a sibling is illegal and you can easily be prosecuted for this - many people have gone to jail over this. And if your brother is older than you, he will be prosecuted too for sex with a minor. Incest is a crime, and there is a reason for that. It is a crime because the authroties need to protect the lives of unborn babies - having a baby with a sibling will mean the child is born with serious birth defects and will be very ill, that is not fair to deliberately give a child a terrible life full of pain when you have caused it.
While you might think you would be careful and use protection, there is always a chance you could get pregnant through an accident. Where would you be then? Do you really want to have a baby with serious health issues whilst you are in jail? I doubt it!
And think of your parents in all of this, how would they feel if they knew their children were sleeping together? They would be devastated and never be able to forgive you. Your entire family would disown you, they wouldnt even be able to look you in the eye.
You might see this as harmless and think you would enjoy it; but why would you enjoy sex with your brother over sex with a non-family member? Sex is pleasurable yes, but that is with anyone really. So why risk a criminal conviction to sleep with your brother when you can enjoy sex with someone else?
You dont give any reasons for wanting sex with your brother apart from you think you will enjoy it, and that is just silly. You can enjoy sex with anyone else you choose!
I'm sure there are plenty of guys out there that you are attracted to, why not find yourself a boyfriend and enjoy sex with them? Imagine if you did sleep with your brother, you would never ever find another person who would want to sleep with you or be in a relationship with you because of what you had done.
I can understand why you think there are no negative consequences from this but the objections here are moral. It is morally wrong to sleep with a sibling or any other family member. Would you consider sleeping with your father? That is no different to sleeping with your brother, but it is just as disgusting.
I hope you have strong enough standards to realise that this is morally wrong and there is a good reason why it is illegal.
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reader, Nora_Bird  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 Hey, I agree with the others that have posted. First of all, if you became pregnant your child would have serious health problems. And, all the previous responses have covered what incest can do to you and your brother's mental health. This is a really bad idea and if you keep thinking about this than perhaps you should talk to a counselor, because its not normal to seriously consider doing this. Well, I hope you do the right thing and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Just completely forget this idea, it is the worst idea in the world!! Get another boyfriend and forget about your brother. It's incest - illegal, disgusting, wrong!! This will seriously affect you and your brothers mental health and could completely ruin your family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): Actually, it is wrong. It is illegal! Not to mention just flat out a horrible idea. Imagine if you both decided to do this. What happens after? You are related and HAVE to see each other for the rest of your lives. Since you are young, you are still living together. Can you imagine having to go through car rides and sitting across the table from him if you've had sex? You shouldn't be having sex with someone you have no romantic feelings for whatsoever, and it's probably worse if you DO have romantic feelings for him. You need to get the idea out of your head and move on.
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