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writes:If two people have a baby shouldn't both parents do work. I get up in the middle of the night with my 9 month old and he never does. I woke him up the smorning to ask him to watch our son and he wouldn't... shouldn't he want to help to? Reply to this Question
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reader, jessekk69  +, writes (12 February 2007):
 i have a 21 month old son and a 7 month old son and me and my husband take it in turns every night. when my eldest was born i was the one getting up everynight til one night when my mum was babysitting and we were out having a drink i told i cant do this anymore. i need help looking after our baby, please!! and he came up with the way we do things now. talk to him. xx
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (12 February 2007):
 That's not very fair of him. The baby is both of yours, and he should put in the time. Have you told him that you're getting very tired, and it would help if sometimes he got up and watched your son sometimes?
You need to sit him down and talk about it. If he is a very busy guy and needs his sleep so he can go to work, maybe see if there's someone who could come over and watch the baby for an hour or two (so you can take a nap?). If you go to a church, I'll bet there are tons of people there who would be happy to do it for free! But, if you don't, there are plenty of high school students and college students who love babies and wouldn't mind hanging out with yours for a little bit each day.
You do need to talk to your boyfriend about equaling out your system. Tell him htat you're getting very tired and you think your son should spend time with his Dad.
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 February 2007):
 These issues should have been discussed BEFORE the baby was conceived oh well too late for that now. Do both of you work full time? If so, then yes he should take turns but if he works and you are a stay at home mom then you should do the night time duties. I stayed home when my kids were babies so I did all the 2 am feedings etc....I also made sure that when they took a nap so did I.
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