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writes:quick question: I am with my partner for almost 3 years.I might not be the most romantic of men but I do try.. I will bring home flowers/gifts for her without a reason like a birthday or whatever. Spring a surprise trip on her when I can afford it. Do little things about the house I know she doesn't like to do or likes having done you know?I think we should be in a comfortable place now but she seems to be stuck in the first flush of our relationship. I'll give you an example, she usually goes to bed about 30 minutes before me, so she has to get a kiss before she leaves the room then a kiss goodnight in bed. She kisses me if she is going to the gym or shopping with her girls. 5 times a day she is asking me for hugs. I know it seems silly but I just want to know if this is normal because I feel its like being a teenager. That part of our relationship was great but I think that now we should be in a more secure place where we dont need to do this all the time.I do enjoy kissing and hugging but not every time one of us leave the house for a while.What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): She might have some insecurity issues. I've noticed lately (my daughter and her friends for instance) every time we end a phone conversation or we part, she says "Byeloveyou"(sounds like one word)and hugs. I've told her when you say it so casual it can lose its' meaning...but maybe I'm wrong, my husband thinks so. Instead of 'doing' something, how about on surprise, go to her and face her, hold her upper arms, look her in the eyes, and say with all the meaning you can, "I really Love You" You might shock her a bit, but that should last her a Whole Day ;)
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reader, sparkleworks  +, writes (9 January 2009):
 "I do enjoy kissing and hugging but not every time one of us leave the house for a while."
This is the most baffling thing I have ever read. I can't even imagine not kissing my boyfriend before I leave him! What is it you expect, just to wave 'bye' and walk away?
If your girlfriend is anything like me, then she isn't hanging on to the "first flush" of your relationship, that's just how she relates to someone she loves. Is a quick peck on the lips a couple of times a day really that much of a problem for you?
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reader, Dani28 +, writes (9 January 2009):
I think it is sweet that ur gf is keeping this up, doesnt it make u feel secure? do u not get pleasure out of knowing how much she loves you and wants to be close to u? I think this is a sign of a nice relationship, i think its great
tc xox
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 January 2009):
 I think she loves you and if you are lucky and if the two of you grow old together, you will wish those hugs will still be coming when you are 90. :)
I touch, hug and kiss my husband EVERY chance I get. We have known each other for 12 years married little over 10.
He never leaves the house without a kiss & hug or a nibble on the ear, a tickle or a promise for what is to come when he gets back.
Maybe for a change you can give her a hug before she asks:)
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (9 January 2009):
 Keep up the kissing and little things if you want this relationship to really last and last happily. It is when a man gets too confortable and feels he can stop these little things that love often begins to die. Women thrive on these small bits of attention and will feel more connected to you and more cherished by you. A kiss is a small thing. Why give it up?
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