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writes:I love my bf, he's a great guy. But sometimes I wish he were better looking. I make him wear a hat all the time cos his hair is awful and he's going bald. But I sometimes feel like that is really messed up. Shouldn't I love him no matter what? But it really bothers me when he doesn't wear a hat...i feel horrible about it.I feel like I have to choose between his great personality, and his looks, and i get frustrated wondering why I can't just have both. I'm just so tired of everything feel so difficult! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): I started losing my hair at around the age of 30. There's precious little left these days but I think I'm better looking than Bruce Willis. It's not so much a bald head as a solar panel for a sex machine. God made just a few perfect heads and He covered the rest with hair.
I wonder if there's something about you he doesn't like? Would you be insulted if he spelled out any problems he's got with your looks, body shape, vital statistics or attitude? Try putting yourself in his shoes. He's probably feeling rather tender about losing his hair but there's precious little he can do about it unless he's got the cash reserves of Elton John.
If you see this bald head thing as a barrier to a relationship I don't have much hope for your future. Just the same as you, it's what's inside that counts. What do your insides look like?
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (11 February 2009):
ask yourself what attracted you to him in the first place. try and think about those first moments of getting together.
he can't help it if he is loosing hair. it's in his genes. nothing wrong with Bruce Willis! he can make bald look hot.lol
you can't force him to wear a hat. it would be like him forcing you to wear something you hate. you would feel uncomfortable! maybe suggest that he cuts his hair, so it is really short. the baldness won't be as obvious then. but at the end of the day, only he can decide on what he wants when it comes down to his hair.
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reader, shortstuff4789  +, writes (11 February 2009):
 my boyfreind is only 21 and has lost most of his hair. he wears a hat and shaves his head so its not a big deal i really like it when he shaves his head i think its sexy. you may wanna try it with your guy. you should feel bad its not his fault he is balding if you care that much about looks than maybe your not right for him. your making it difficult . there also another option, you could get him something to regrow his hair. but tread lightly you could really hurt his feelings in this. if looks matter that much adn he isnt cutting it then i hate to be this mean but let him go and find someone who wont make him feel bad about his looks and cares MORE about the inside than the outside. sorry i hate being mean but its not fair to him
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (11 February 2009):
 YES you should love him for who he is not how he looks and if you cant be proud of your man chances are you need to let him go because all you will do is bring down his self esteem.Its not fair..You say he has a great personality then go with that hey not all of us are beauty queen or king material but you know what ?Its more important to be a good person with a awesome personality then to be gorgeous and be a total jerk cause you are completely stuck on yourself so dont fret over a little baldness that doesnt make the person ......
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