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writes:What if your husband/wife/gf/bf asks about the best sex you've ever had and it wasnt with them? Should you lie? Tell the truth? Change the subject? Does gender or marital status matter in this situation? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): Yes, honesty is the best policy. But as long as you don't go too much into detail or start acting and faking everything, tell them it was them!!
I know it's a bit bad, but imagine being told someone in your partners past was better in bed than you? Wounder.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): I like the suggestion about trying to make tonight the best. It changes the focus to the underlying basis for the question which is to openly discuss what really turns you on. By asking the question what was the best sex you've ever had, they are really trying to determine what the elements of that event (fetishes, situation, location or acts) combined to create such a combustible chemistry for you. If you can openly share this then tonight will be the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Well I never bought up the subject with my Ex Gf. She is 12 years older than me in her early forties, and even though we still talk regularly on the phone she brings up the subject every now and then that I'm the best sex she's ever had (shes had her fair share of guys in the past to). Problem is she's just got post divorce issues, was bad ground for me to tread on emotionally.
I know it's sort of the reverse to this question.
Anyhow, no one should be asking the question. Just work on making things as spicey as possible for your partner, be creative and passionate. Tease and please!
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 If it were me... I would simply try to create an amazing sexual experience with the one I were with, so that the honest answer would be 'them'. I've had amazing sex with plenty of different partners, and whenever I was asked by a serious girlfriend I would say something like, "well, why don't we try and make it tonight?" And then do something fun, different, creative, or especially intimate in bed with them... it's an answer that never fails... and I have gotten some damn good sex out of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): LIE, lol. Is it really worth the hassle and the hurt? god no!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): You should never have to come into this question with a good lover, but if they DO ask, simply say them. White lie, it can't hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): It isnt a question that a husband/wife/partner should ask. It is one of those questions that is best left in the cupboard and not brought out. No one should ask or be asked that one, then the answer wont hurt anyone. I know my ex used to say that i was his best, but he was full of bloody bullshit anyway, so that was taken with a bucket of salt. Dont ask and dont tell, that is my motto for a happy future. I certainly dont want to know what my hubby thinks, and he wouldnt ask me. Its in the past, leave it there to rot.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Tell them the best sex was with two goats, a chicken, a midget and a lesbian bisexual transvestite. Ask them if you can do it again, but this time include their sister, cousin and brother to the mix.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 Hi,
I think when a partner puts their S.O in this position it is unfair. There is only one answer but it should be followed up later on with a question over why she is so insecure about herself. These are the real issues here not whether she is good in bed or not.
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (15 May 2008):
 LIIIEEEE!!!If its not him/her and you will tell them the truth, it will break their heart!!! It will change everything than. They will think they are not good enough. Do not tell the truth. Sometimes we just have to lie ... and if you dont want to lie. . change the subject or say something like"Oh Honey ... you know who is it" ... and be all happy about it and funny ... she/he will think its them .. and you will get out of it without Lying
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): Tell him the truth...If you cant be honest with the person you love, what kind of relationship do you have? If he doesnt love you anymre because of the truth, his loss, you have to be honest with yourself and with him. Harsh reality, but "the truth will set you free" as they say. Really, the fact that the best sex you ever had was with someone else is basically only your perception of sex being brought into the open. If you view sex as something physical only, then the best sex is going to be sex that brings the greatest amount of pleasure physically.Let me put it this way....If you dont reveal your true personality, the relationship is doomed to fail. You have to be honest with the one you love, I cant think of an example otherwise, even cheating.
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reader, rproctor +, writes (15 May 2008):
This should be a no brainer... YOU NEVER SAY ANYONE EXCEPT THE PERSON YOU ARE WITH! Seriously, no bs aside... Lie, if you have to... Dont make it obviously a lie.. Tell them about one time you will both remember, something passionate and very satisfying, and use that.
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reader, mylonleyself +, writes (15 May 2008):
 Well I have never had sex, but I think it would depend on your partner. If your partner is very emotional and closed minded, then I wouldn't tell them it was with someone else. If they are more open minded and more understanding I guess I could say that to them. It depends I suppose.
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