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*eenagewasteland
writes:I have a best friend. He has many ex girlfriends and I have three. I'm currently seeing some girl in a long distance relationship. My friend has an ex girlfriend I find flinchingly inviting. Would you ever go around with your best friend's ex girlfriend? Apparently - she felt he changed her life. Now, you must know, he's a better man for a girl, I doubt his depth of character though but then, he's smarter, more charming and better with words. I'm not a teenager, I am in my late 20's and it is not like I don't get girls or attention from girls. I don't feel guilty about going after his ex. I feel I know things will become too sour if I go out with his ex. Pardon my lack of diction at expressing this. I meant to sound very serious and sophisticated but I sound immature. Gee whiz. Would you ever date your best best best friend's ex? And oh I'm almost 24.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): well after my ex dumped me his best friend asked me out a few months later and we were 2gether for 8 years! He told his best friend that he fancied me - even when we were together. His friend didn't mind him going out with me but I think as long as you let him know it should be a problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): She's his EX.
Not his gf. There is not a single thing you owe you him in this respect.
But he's not gonna like it, so be prepared for that. But, he screwed up fair and square and not she's with you.
Flynn 24
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Nooooo. Ooooh. That's a Cardinal Rule of Dating. It just gets really, really messy. My son is 25 and two of his friends are always doing this. It's really disrespectful and hard on the friendship because it draws a lot of different loyalty issues up, firstly, with your friends. It can then it cause loyalty and jealously problems with your new girlfriend too, especially if His name comes up by comparison, Or too often. It's just so much easier to date a total stranger. This rule also works with friends of relatives, relatives of friends, etc, etc.
I have to say, I do say this ALL the time, but most people think that they can beat the odds and that it will be okay for them - but if you want to learn from someone else's past experiences - it's messy. My relationship with my brother never really recovered after I dated his girlfriend's brother, and two of my son's friends don't speak. I have a sneaking suspicion that you are an "experiment learner" and like to make your own mistakes, much as I did, but I would love if someone benefitted from My mistake! It wasn't pretty.
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