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writes: Should I just ignore or initiate a final talk?I broke up with my bf because he always ignores me and hurts my feelings, one friday's night, I deadly missed him and wanted to speak with him, he refused to pick up my phone when he was partying. I gave him the last call and left msg to break up, and when he partied back until 6am on Saturday's morning, he called me back and did not want to break up as what he did before. We talked on the phone,because I was really sick of this relationship, which had badly destoried my health, he eventually said-"your health is no. 1 important thing, if it hurst your health, I do not want to be with you". I thought that was already a final talk on the phone.But then he said he would call me up on saturday's noon and wanted to talk about it further, he did not but just emailed me at night instead. I ignored his email, since he cheated me again. He then called me on sunday I ignored his phone since I was really angry with upsetting phones. I called him up late sunday's night and he did not apologize at all. Then he called me again on monday to ask for meeting up to talk, I was really sick and did not call him back.Tuesday I was thinking maybe we should meet up for an officially final talk face to face. I called him but we fought on the phone, on Wed., I texted him to check whether he wanted to dine together, he did not text me until late midnight saying Thursday, then Thursday nothing happened, he called me late; but he initiated a dinner together on friday, then friday he did not call at all until 2:20am when he got back with friends in a bar, he called me and asked for a talk and dinner on Saturday, and again, saturday he did not call and when I returned his friday's night calling, he just ignored. I called him at saturday's night, I told him-can you just tell me straight away whether you want to talk or not? he said-yes, he knew what he did in the last one week, because he did not want to fight with me, also one part of him wants to talk, another part of him does not.Shall I still give us another try to talk? I am really sick of this game. and for him, my brain tells me that he is not into me at all, but I just love him so much that eventually I get hurt so deadly and have to get out of it. I am confused.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (6 May 2006):
 Keep this guy out of your life as he is playing games with you and he is not considering your feelings.
If he really wanted to consider your health and talk to you he would have done it by now. Stop with the texts, emails and phone calls and concentrate on yourself for a change.
You need to get yourself well and this guy is not helping you at all.
If he is out partying he is not worried about a final chat with you.
Stop being the weak one here and get yourself strong both physically and mentally, listen to what your head is saying. OK so your heart is telling you that you love him so much but being treated this way is just not love. He is out for himself and not for you.
There is a really decent guy out there who can treat you like a queen so do the things you enjoy doing and spend time with people who care about you like friends and family and believe me in a very short space of time you will see that you had a very lucky escape with this guy.
If you are feeling ill it could well be down to the stress of this whole situation and the one thing that he is right about is the fact that your health comes first and certainly not him.
You deserve much better and I am sure that once you have cleared your head and heart of him you will see it too.
Just enjoy life instead as we only get one chance of it and being miserable is not the way to enjoy yourself.
Breaking up is never easy but believe me there is life afterwards as I should know after almost 20 years and 1 5 year old daughter so do things for you now and sit back and relax eh!!
Take care and stay strong and positive and just ignore him as you need to keep everything clear in your own mind. Don't get dragged back into this as he says he wants to see you or call you and he never does so you obviously don't count anymore no matter what he says.
Other guys would not treat you in this way and just remember that OK.
Take care sweetheart and be happy for a change eh!!
BFN
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