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*eighLeigh
writes:Hi there,I'm in need of some advice regarding my current relationship/sexlifeI'm Bi and have been for a long time, I've always wanted and still really want to have a three sum with another woman as well as my partner or with two other women for some time now.My partner is aware of this and tells me he wants to join in but thinks I'll get up set and react badly.He is really shy (sexually) due to I was his first and doesn't have much sexual experience.Truth is I've only just discovered I've fallen in love with my partner and I'm confused on how I really would react..Should we go ahead with the 3sum with him or should I go on the quest alone?I'm not the cheating kind never have been...
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reader, LeighLeigh +, writes (24 June 2009):
LeighLeigh is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thats everyone for your advice, has really opened my eyes.
I will research it and see what I comes up with in end result.
Thanks again!!
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reader, Natter  +, writes (23 June 2009):
First of all honesty is important keep in mind that many more people than you think share these same inhabitions and but never will admit it. I have to assume if you have been interested for a while and still are looking to expierience it your hoping to enjoy it everyone involved needs to be on the same page as far it being strictly an erotic sexual engagement all participants need to be comfortable with each other and there own bounderies. You need to think of it as expierimenting together and be eager to enjoy your partners expierience as well as your own. I challenge you to allow your self to be turned on by the thought of the other girl giving him head and while you watch and soon after then join her spoiling him. The point is this being a hipocrit instills and feeds jelousy and jelousy is the most toxic ingreadient in a loving relationship. I love watching and participating in threesomes with either two girls or two guys later these times evolved into foursomes. The key is being open to each other.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 June 2009):
 If you have to ask this question, you must have some doubts. Don't ever bring another person into a relationship unless EVERYONE involved is 100% gung ho with the idea. I suggest you re-read Uncle Phil's last two sentences.
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reader, Your friend +, writes (23 June 2009):
 I don't think it is about how you would react but how he would. If he is sexually shy with little experience and he sees you really enjoying the experience with the third person he will definately feel left out and confused especially as he is sexually shy and doesn't have much expeience.His emotions would probably become mixed and confused all at the same time and I would doubt that he could effectively sort this out. He won't say no because he loves you and you brought it up but he may be quite apprehensive about actually doing it. As far as going ahead on your own well that's a different question again
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): However you look at it, if you're already in a committed relationship, what you're planning is cheating.
That said, many men would probably think all their Christmasses had come at once if they found themselves in this situation. He'd probably get excited seeing you writhing about with another woman, but you have to ask yourself how you'd feel watching him getting stuck into another woman too. You might question whether he enjoyed playing with her more than you and all sorts of jealousies could crop up.
Threesomes seldom work out in the long run. Just do a search on this site and you'll find plenty of horror stories.
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