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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I’ve only been with men, but have always had crushes on women. Nothing has ever happened as I’ve never acted on them. They are getting stronger as I get older. I feel like I need to explore this. My current crush is on a specialist (think doctor) in my life. I know she is not married, but I’m not sure of her preference. I want to ask her out just to get to know her better and see if there is potential between us. I don’t know how to do this. (I’m currently in a 15 year stale relationship) I just want to have some personal time outside the office to see if there are any sparks, but not to come on to her. How do I ask her out for dinner or whatever without sounding stupid? Do I suggest dinner as a thank you for her services? Is that lame? I should also mention I've sent a previous request to do something and it was ignored, however, I'm not sure if ever got to her so I'm a little gunshy for looking desperate in case she did get it and is just not in to me. Please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): I have just came out and I was married. I would either just ask without guilt or regret or wondering what she will say. You are both adults, right? The answer might surprise you. I just recently approached a women and she has a boyfriend and I just put the "questions" out there and let her make the next move. This always works for me. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): She probably won't have much respect for someone that's already in a relationship asking her out. On top of that, you are probably in one with a male so I think it may freak her out.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 June 2009):
 You'd be wise to address your current 15 year old relationship before you bring another person into the mix. Cheating is bad, mkay?
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