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writes:Should we buy this house together?My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years now and I love him very much. We have always had difficulties because we want different things and he is also bipolar but I am learning how to to deal with it. We are about to buy a house together but we only recently had a near break up. It seems like we are always on the rocks. He has admitted to me that he loves me and my company but he doesn't see us together forever. He doesn't want kids or marriage but I do. He wants to do this house because he will enjoy working on it with me as an investment. I just want a normal relationship! I think I know what I should do but I can't seem to find the courage and I know it will hurt so much. Reply to this Question
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reader, RaeRae86  +, writes (23 April 2007):
 Yea you shouldnt not buy the house together. I had a boyfriend since i was 13 (7year) and he and i let him move into my apartment with me and put him on my cell phone plan because i loved him and he couldnt afford anything. Well now all im left with is an empty apartment, a broken heart and $5,000 of debt because of him.
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reader, Love Machine`  +, writes (23 April 2007):
 You should tell him how u feel and if he doesn't like it don't buy the house!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 April 2007):
 Do not buy a house together. There are laws that protect married couples but it can get pretty dicey if you aren't legally married and split up. He should wait until he can afford it on his own.
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reader, penta +, writes (23 April 2007):
 When someone tells you who they are and what they want, it's important to believe them. The futures you each want are incompatible, and you can continue living his life while putting yours on hold -- or you can run like your ass is on fire. I recommend the latter.
Please don't buy a house with him. Also, though it will be painful, don't continue dating him. Break it off and go solo for a while. You have to get over him so that you will be available and healed when you meet your soul mate. The man who wants the life you want is out there, hon'. Don't be tied to this guy when you meet him or you'll chase him off.
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