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writes:I'm in love with my girlfriend, she is my only concern in this world, and I've let her known that many times. There are things I've told/named her that I've never told to anyone else, namely ex-girlfriends. She tells me I am "her life, her sky, her everything." She says she's in love with me too, and that she's never felt this way about anyone else before. Yet, this isn't true. She has names for me she's called her old boyfriends, she says the exact same phrases she's told them. How do I know this? Snooping around, unfortunately. She has a hi5 that she rarely talk about, and I recently checked it out of curiosity. Noticed the comments she's made in the past with ex's, and whaddya know, the exact same stuff she's been telling me. I've also seen her most recent ex commenting (saying stuff like you are my love etc), though I don't know if she's been responding (his profile is private).So my question is, should this bug the hell out of me? Because it really does. There's so much more to this as well, but I'd like to keep it brief.Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi there, I'm the one posted the question.
Thanks for your responses. I overreact when it comes to the littlest of things, and I suppose this is one of them. I'm still relatively new at this, as you can see by my age. I'll try not to let these things get to me.
Thanks again.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (26 February 2009):
 She's looking for someone she can call "her life, her sky, her everything". In the past she thought she'd found it but she hadn't. This is still what she's looking for, though, and she hopes that this time she's really found it. If you're both lucky, she has. If she'd given up hope, you wouldn't be hearing these words from her. You would hear only the timid sounds of a heart that has been broken too many times, not daring to even think that it is possible to keep looking for "her life, her sky, her everything".
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (26 February 2009):
 Aaahhhh ... young love and romanticism ... how sweet :-)
I think you can start "suggesting" her to come up with new phrases to compliment each other. Instead of the now-generic phrases like "sky, mountain, seas" etc etc etc ... say something that means something special only to the both of you.
What animated films do you both like? What sci-fi characters you enjoy? What multi-purpose medicinal (or aphrodisiac) plants do you both like?
Have fun coming up with new loving nicknames :-)
Cat
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (26 February 2009):
 I suffer from what I like to call "Denny's Waitress Syndrome" which causes me to call everyone I am in a relationship with 'hon' or 'babe'. I call all my friends 'sweetie' and 'cutie'. Some girls are just like this. It's more a personality thing.
An emotion is different from the words she speaks. Unfortunately you can't climb into her head to know this. If she says she has never felt this way before, then I would trust that over her catch phrases. If it really annoys you, maybe bring it up to her gently. She may not even realize she is doing this, and I am sure she doesn't want to lump you in with the rest of her loser ex's.
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reader, gleep  +, writes (26 February 2009):
Ok, dude... what you have to realise is that love is never the same! How can it be? Everyone is different right? your into different things than her ex's, you look different, you sound, smell, act different than them. Everthing about you is different from everything she may have experienced before.
Yes she's told other guys she loves them and only them and has never felt that way before, and man... she was totaly telling the truth! When she tells you she has never felt this way before, she is not lieing, she truely has never loved anyone like you before. The feelings she has for you are actualy very different from the feelings shes had before.
So what if she uses the same words... theres only so many ways to express love! Are you saying your angry at her because she is not a english lit major? That she can't come up with a thousand new ways to describe a feeling that to be quite honest with you is very hard to describe?
You may not believe me now man, but in time you'll see what I mean. And if you really don't believe me, ask anyone in this world that has fallen in love more than once.
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