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writes:HiThe problem I'm writing about it is not my problem it is my sister's... so we are Americans but we live in Saudi Arabia in Aramco (which is a very open place, not like the rest of the country).. about 2 years ago my sister met this Saudi dude and fell for him..they still together and a month ago he proposed ..and from the way she is talking about it i think she is totally saying yes..she finds it ok..she says that he is different but i don't find it ok what do you think guys...is it ok to get married to someone from the middle east!!i don't know them well..the place where we live has only foreigners living in... Reply to this Question
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (26 May 2011):
 Your anxiety is on point. But its her decision. Express your concerns to her and tell or give her some examples you know. Personally I would never get involved with anyone from the middle east. Are you Christians? Also let your parents know about this. I hope it all ends well.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (26 May 2011):
 You might want her to look into Betty Mahmoody's story before she commits to this guy. Betty thought the Iranian man she was marrying was completely Westernized, but found as he got older he became more conservative. A cautionary tale, IMO:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Not_Without_My_Daughter
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (26 May 2011):
 Careful not to build up prejudices simply because of what you see from others. If your sister says yes, ask her if she is absolutely sure.
There is a Pakistani man who works in the shop next to mine, very religious but he treats his wife with the utmost respect, treats her as a complete equal. She is Pakistani too. His family is angry because he treats her so well. So you see, even though others may believe one thing, it doesn't dictate what this one man believes, it will not guide his hand in his treatment of her.
Get to know him. See if he is the kind of man you will support in marrying your sister.
I hope that helps.
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