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writes:I want to have a baby. I'm 18, and my boyfriend is 25. I know I sound like a massive bogan saying this - but I'm not. I work in a hospital and I am currently studying nursing and health services managment and a good university in Queensland. My boyfriend has a stable job and lives with a flatmate. We have been going out for 6 months now and only recently we had a pregnacy scare ( it was a false alarm ) but it got my boyfriend thinking. I immediatly thinking of my studies decided to have an abortion ( even though I am strongly against them) I knew that my parents would kill me ( I still live at home). When I told him this, he of course understood 100% but for a whlie there, he started talking about children. We were out one night and he'd had a bit to drink and when we saw to little girls he said that he couldnt wait to be a father and that he was ready now. He said that he was ready with me. Now I know the fact that he's 25 is definitely the thing why he's ready - because I assume thats the normal age for blokes for this type of thing.. and I have known that I have wanted kids my whole life - is it such a bad thing?I know the 6 months thing, is obviously a massive 'duh!' thing, but I would really like to know your opions. P.s my parents love him and so do my grandparents, and i have met all of his family and I get along with them perfectly as well. We met each other through a mutual friend and ever since then its been wonderful. Please help!
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reader, chandra Mcmillan  +, writes (5 October 2008):
 Hi, I would say that the age difference and your age is fine to have a baby. However you still live with your mum and dad and your partner lives with a house mate. You are trying to become a nurse. You have so much time to have children and your career is somthing that is important to you. I would say in my opinion you should Finish your study and spend time working as a nurse. Save some money and get a place with your boyfriend if your serious about each other thats the first step! Then try for a family. This is only my advice but i think you need to concider your dreams and the responsibility. Think about it and make sure you are your boyfriend are truly serious about the commitment of having a child before you do it. Good luck with your career and the family prospect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): Enjoy being young!!!! Trust me, when i was 19 i met the person i thought i was goign to spend the rest of my life with. we decided we wanted to have a baby. He was 24, in a stable job, out of college and living on his own. Well he left me for a gilr with out a child so he could still be care free and party. I am now 24 with a 5 year old and doing it all on my own. I know just bc this is what happened to me does not mean it will to you, but im just saying you never know how things can change when you have a baby. If he loves you then he should understand that you need to finish school still, and marry him before having his children!
Good luck!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): im 16
i thing its ok at your age but there are things you have to look at Like...
you would have to geve up ur job for a bit to look after it and would it just be u looking after the baby
and things like this
i hope this Helps
x
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