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writes:Hi, I am in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly two and a half years. The problem is this, he loves being the centre of attention and when i get attention from men he does not like it. I go to his hometown, the girls are not friendly with me. His ex is from this town and she keeps staring at me, kinda weird if you ask me in that she comes over to us, ignores me and says nothing but looks at him and is sad. Also, he has these so called friends of his, (girls) they were in Austrialia for year, shared a bed withe on but "nothing happened" they were just friends he told me, anyhow one night we were out and one particular one kissed him on the cheek and did it again to make sure i saw, her frieds were laughing at this as it made me uncomfortable. Another night we went on his work night out, he left me alone all night, i knew nobody and was totally embarrassed as i was sitting alone all night. We have a fight the next day and he told me he could not guarantee it will happen again!! The odd time he goes away on weekends with work and never calls me and then when he returns wants to go to his hometown and does not want to spend time with me. SHOULD I WALK AWAY FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP, as i dont think he loves me...?
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Country Woman is right! He has no respect for you. He is playing on your feelings towards him, and sounds positively mean. I think he sounds like he is trying to make you feel insecure, and thats so wrong. You know the saying "No good flogging a dead horse" thats what your doing staying with this guy.
There is bound to be a better person out there for you than this, so just pluck up the courage and tell him where to go. In the future you will look back and think "why did I put up with him".
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Sweetheart I think you are already answering your own question.
He hates YOU getting attention from men so is jealous and then he treats you like dirt and gets off on all the female attention he gets, it should work both ways.
Unfortunately he is selfish and wants life his way and not yours, he does not value your opinion or respect you.
Anyone who has said that he spent time with girls in Australia and shared and bed and nothing happened is just trying to fool you in my opinion, why would she be so tactile towards him and kiss him even on the cheek in front of you and her friends laugh? The answer is there in itself there is more to that than meets the eye.
His ex being in his hometown and her staring at you, sweetheart it wouldn't matter who you were you are currently with him and she isn't just pure jealousy.
Now going to works do's and leaving you on your own is just downright RUDE and pig ignorant, you just wouldn't do that to someone you would say you love. You would be by their side and introduce them to all your work colleagues, what is the point of taking you if he is going to dump you at the first chance so he can spend time with his work mates.
You could be spending time with one of those gorgeous guys who gives you attention which your current bf hates, they would probably treat you more like a princess than someone left sitting on the sidelines.
If he is going out and weekends and not bothering to contact you then he has the life of riley.
He obviously likes the intimate side of your relationship but will never give anything more of himself.
Don't sit back and be treated like a doormat sweetheart, get out now and dump him before he dumps you, he will not like this as you are taking control and the initiative and don't take him back even if he begs, he really isn't worth it I'm afraid.
You on the other hand are worth so much so hold your head up high and organise a girls night out and go and have fun.
Don't rush yourself into something new for someone just have fun with your friends and no I am not saying jump into bed with a stranger but just get back in touch with yourself and find the inner strong girl you can be.
Good luck and here any time OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, Vanessa74  +, writes (14 April 2008):
If u have needs that are not being met it is your responsibility as being an equal in ur relationship to bring it to him first and voice ur concerns if he does nothing with it or does not seek help or educate himself to improve then it is plain to see it is a dead end here. U cannot allow ur spouse or his friends to treat u with disrespect
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 I don't think you are appreciated nor loved.
You should not be subjected to such ridicule.
If I were you ,I would leave him because I would not feel his love or concern.
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