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female
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30-35,
*eyna
writes:Hello again, everyone... I ended a 4 years relationship about 2-3 months ago, it was awful for me to go through that, but everyday im feeling more detached from it. I started college a few weeks after my ex and i broke up, and although i made friends pretty much instantly, the thought of having a relationship was out of question. But recently i met this guy who is making me consider having a relationship again. We met at a study group about 3 weeks ago and since then we have seen each other 3-4 times a week(sometimes only the 2 of us). Yesterday we went to a coffee shop and after we were done studying he told me he likes me as more than a friend, and that he wants to take me out on a date. I told him that I like him too, and that I would love to go out with him( he was so surprised because he thought I wasn’t interested in him). The thing is that im soooo scared of screwing this up, I really like this new guy, but can someone really move on after only 3 months? Should I wait more or do you think I should start slow with this guy?Do you think in a way I might be using him? I feel like im not but after a breakup we usually act in strange ways…. Im sure I don’t love my ex anymore, but im still a little hurt, and it scares me that I might drag along my pain into a this new relationship, this new guy is such an different, special person, I had never met someone like him before, I really don’t want to ruin this.. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 October 2009):
You've answered your own question partially. You need to take it slow. Don't be afraid to tell him that you've just been through a break up and want to make sure that you don't get hurt or hurt him. If he's a good guy, he'll understand. Just take it slow.
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