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writes:I have a best friend for 4years practically all my high school life. We were very close back then but I just didn't court her with the fear that she might not be feeling the same thing for me. When we graduated from high school and go on our separate ways for college I feel that I have to move and court her I can’t stand being away without her. So then I courted her and we became lovers for 1 year and 11 months. But she broke up with me because I have no more time for her. School is pressuring me and I was also problematic financially. If I go out with her then my weekly allowance wouldn’t last for a week. I know it’s a lame reason but that’s basically it. We just see each other once a week and sometimes we don’t see each other for 2 weeks cause she lives far from where I’m living and we also have classes from Mondays to Saturdays. And I seldom text or call her cause if I do she might ask me to go out and when we do I have to pay for everything and my allowance is just not enough. I don’t say I miss you even if I do because she might say that if I miss her then why don’t I asked her to go out or something. So now she is already with another guy just 1 week after we broke up and there been together for 2 years now. I tried to move on but I still love her. One time I decided to text her just to know if she’s ok starting that day we were talking and texting for hours everyday. I told her that my feelings for her didn’t changed and that I still care and lover her. I tried to get back with her but she says that she is already committed to the guy and that the guy doesn’t deserve to be hurt. So I asked her if she still loves me so that I can finally have a closure and move on but she said that she still cares and loves me and she even thinks that were soul mates but she’s just committed and she doesn’t want to be unfaithful with the guy. That’s makes it harder to move on cause I know that she still loves me. This is so hard for me I don’t know what to do
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reader, Baffledd  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 Let it go, move on with your life. I know moving on is hard believe me i know. But at the same time shes committed. If you love someone let them go, if they return they're forever yours.
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reader, faenon  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 I'm sorry but now is time for you to start growing up and acting like a man instead of a child and wake up to reality even if your financially unstable if this girl truly and I mean truly had genuine feelings for you the finance issues wouldn't be a problem nor a reason to break it off with you, now for the wake up call son if she loved you as much as you try making out she wouldnt've moved onto to another fellow already after being broken up for only a week so that there should be a indicator that her feelings for you arent as deep as yours for her.
Suck it up let it be a lesson and move on you cannot move forward by dwelling and trying to live in the past the relationship is over let it be and let her stay faithful with her man she's been with for two years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): No.Move on.
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reader, Donjay  +, writes (23 January 2011):
I think you have to give her more time to think, she will get back to you when she regrets being without you.
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