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writes:Okay guys so i need your advice. Me and my boyfriend have just broken up for the second time after getting back together a few months ago. It was because we don't have enough time to see each other as much as we would like due to work commitments. He has told me that once it calms down at work and everything that he would want to get back together with me. But he hasn't said how long this is going to be. We both still love each other and have both said that we won't get with each people whilst we are on this "break". But should i be willing to wait for him for however long it might be, not knowing whether he is serious about me or not?? I know it sounds selfish if he does seriously want to be with me again, but I am really upset about not being with him and i miss him so much. Ant advice would be much appreciated, thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): thank you for the advice ... it means a lot, you made a lot of sense =]i spoke with him yesterday and he just called to make sure that i knew he was serious about being together again in the future. I guess i will wait and see what happens. I love him too much to just let what we have go and not try to make it work once things have changed, which if they do then it will be perfect as work was the only thing that wasn't right in our relationship. But i guess all i can do is wait. I know that he would do the same if it was me. If he had said there is a possibility that we might get back together then things would be different and i would probably make myself move on as there isnt a definite answer. But because i trust him, i believe that he means what he says =]Your advice was just what i needed. It made me realise that i am prepared to wait around for him, so thank you xx
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (5 April 2009):
you still love him and so i dont think that waiting would be a problem for you too much its the end of what may come that could be the damaging pat. People get so close and then they head off into different directions sometimes forgetting whats important and the promises they once made. Think about it, its going to take time and you have to wait not even knowing if you really have a future. After youve waited how will you cope with the change? it happens to everyone, he will slowly develop into a different guy with a different list of priorities. While its nice to think of the happy ending balance it out.
Maybe its the sort of relationship thats already ended? Your only just back together yet your heading off seperatly (for what ever reason) maybe its a sign that what you once had has gone. Many people live by the rule of never going back to a guy if it didnt work out the first time. youve taken the second step and as your witnessing now its not working.
its hard because i know you love him but as people you will start to change and neither of you can stop that, this leads to the question of if he even wants to... its a big thing telling somebody that you want them once everything has settled, do you want to take the risk and be somebodys second best? and what is your life on hold until hes sorted? its your choice but make sure your thinking of yourself when you make it.
Your relationship is based on the wrong things, use this as a wake up call that you need, maybe use this as a way of saying the last goodbye?
best of luck
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