Text cheating husband and the drama continues

A female age , *crambled brain writes:

Me AGAIN with the text cheating husband. New developments......we have had a horrible weekend. He has always refused to show me June/July's phone bill to 'clear' his name but I said if we've ANY chance of trying again he must bring them home from work where they are delivered as they are tax deductable (so he says!!!!) To my amazement he agreed and I can see why he didn't want me to see them. Most nights he was on the phone to her for anything up to an hour after work when he goes to the golf club for a drink and one night when he went to a society dinner he was on between 10 and 11pm. The texting was as much as 30 times one particular day and then it became the weekends as well (not that many thank god). AGAIN he cried and said it was just a game for them both (remember I had seen a text off her last August mentioning they'd 'done nothing yet' and that was some sort of relief but now they've continued communicating on a secret pay as you go which I discovered about last Thursday and he is adamant there was nothing sexy and they HAD to stay in touch as he is sorting out problems at her pratice as her boss has gone off with illness (that is actually true that bit). He said he didn't want to keep having to show me their texts and have me cross referencing them with every bill (which I CAN understand to a certain extent as it is pretty degrading having to do that. Anyway I phoned her Thursday and she agreed to meet me. I texted her to ask about this and she didn't reply so I phoned again. She said she wasn't prepared to meet and she had told her husband 'everything'. I'm afraid to say I got quite nasty and said I had the phone bill evidence and the few texts I HAD seen stored on my phone. She said you better look to your own husband first at least I've never done anything like this before 'unlike YOUR husband'. I was phoning while my husband was in the garden but I immediately went out and shoved the phone in his hand and she repeated what she'd said and he replied 'well thank you VERY much'. End of conversation, then I had to confront him about THAT. He swore he didn't know what she was on about but then said she had asked him a couple of times if anything had gone on with the woman who did her job before her. I can only assume she must have heard hearsay cos she wasn't on the scene then and my husband says he didn't ask her how she knew (wouldn't you??) but told her definately not. I am assuming this is what she was refering to unless there has been a string of them. I seperately phoned 2 mutual male friends of my husband and I that we've known since uni (he actually said phone them and ask) who attended the same committee meetings as him and this previous woman and they both assured me they were certain nothing had gone on. They were definately telling the truth as they saw it (I didn't give them details of why I needed to know and, bless them, they didn't pry). One of them had at one time employed her and confirmed she was very flirty. My husband will flirt back if someone does it to him for his own 'amusement' and he said she used to flirt a bit at meetings and dinners and call people darling and he had to phone her at work regularly as she typed up committee business for him as he was secretary and she was PA to the committee so anyone else around could have heard flirty comments. We've had a NIGHTMARE weekend but we both love each other dearly and although you will all say 'get rid of him now you fool', he is my one and only love and treats me like a queen and we have a fabulous life. We would both be cutting off our noses to spite our face and it won't help me overcome what's happened either way. I suppose I'm not asking for advice cos I know I can't not have him in my life. I just wanted to pour my heart out and let those of you kind enough to have replied to my previous posts know what has happened. One last thing, I texted her back to apologise for being so vindictive but she hasn't switched her phone on since and I'm sure won't answer anyway. My husband says he's never seen that nasty side of her before and was genuinely amazed. I am certain they won't be having anything to do with each other ever again but although I've constantly worried about that so it's a big relief, I've still got to deal with what's already happened. Thankyou for listening x

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