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writes:I found someone that I had tried to forget long ago on a dating/chat website that I roam, When I saw a picture I clicked it thinking hey she is kind of cute, then when it popped up full scale my heart skipped a beat as it clicked and I looked at the users name to have it cemented that it was indeed my first love, who had cast me aside for her abusive ex boyfriend, She made me emotionally unstable for over a year because she hurt me so bad.What scares me is that the fact that her page said single, and I almost feel like talking to her again. I can sense that little voice that drove me thought the whole mess of a relationship whispering in my ear saying "it could work this time", but logic tells me that she would only hurt me again if she had the chance.We had so much in common and it wasn't about looks in either side, I really loved her(OMG HE SAID LOVE). That's the only way I can explain it, I haven't really felt exactly the same for anyone sense I mean this just shows how much I cared and how much of an effect this all had on me after trying for 2 years to bury all the pain and innocent confusion I still have feeling for her, Should I try talking to her or should I just let things be as they are and never look back, I never imagined this would even be an issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionill just leave it be, the more i think about it, it would be a poor decision to try again because of the obvious my parents already hate her and that would make things really bad for her.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (25 June 2009):
 Would you be prepared to go through the same pain or worse if it didn't work again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): Hey, It's up to you whether you want to try again or not (if she wants), but personally, I wouldn't go back there again. She left you for another guy and broke your heart. Remember what you had, but maybe it should be left at that: memories. You're still healing, so if you get back with her and she leaves you again, it will probably be more emotionally damaging than the first time.
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reader, mediocreland +, writes (25 June 2009):
I know it's easier said than done, but it would be best if you just leave things how they are and never look back. You guys broke up for a reason. Regardless of whether either of you still has feelings for eachother, if she hurt you really bad, it will only make things more confusing and possibly devestating if the relationship ended again.
It's definately easier said than done though. Its been about 4 years since I was with the guy I first loved, and I'm still not 100% over him and the pain from the breakup. I am seeing another guy though and it really helps me forget about my ex. Maybe you should start looking for another healthier relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): Pm her or something see if she wants you its your only choice
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