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writes:I came out of a relationship about 2 months ago. I still have feelings for my ex but do want to move on. A lot of my friends have suggested internet dating. It sounds alright and i was maybe thinking of trying it but i do still have some feelings for my ex and dont want to string anyone along if im not interested. Do you think its worth signing up for just to see what happens or just wait until i'm completely over my ex?
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (14 January 2012):
 Honestly depends on how hung up you still are. After my first relationship it had been a year and I still found myself thinking of him. Only after meeting and dating someone else did I finally move on. But I have also made the mistake of going out way too soon on dates from an internet site (like 2 weeks after, attempting to move on asap) and was almost on the verge of crying during the date! So it really depends. If it is still very raw and you are not ready to move on yet then don't. If you feel it has been awhile and you are ready to meet someone new but still feel sad and miss the ex I think that's normal. If you are trying to replace the person and find an exact replica that's probably your best sign that it isn't the right time or thing to be doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2012): Why do you particulary want to do online dating? Don't you go out much with your friends to meet new people?From the online dating sites I have browsed out of curiosity!(but never gone on), there does seem to be options to put what you are looking for, casual dating, nothing too serious, friendship, ltr, etc etc, but I'm not sure if men put casual/nothing serious means 'I want a no strings attached shag!?'Why not join a club or hobby/night class you've always wanted to, to take your mind off the ex and meet new people first, who may then introduce you to their other friends? It would sort of 'ease you in' to meeting both male and female new friends first, then maybe attraction later?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): Unless there is a category for "rebound" dating, I have to say no. Though many many people would only consider their own pain, loneliness and their need to feel again, you don't have to feed this beast. It is a plague.
Fill your heart with YOU. Fill your life with YOU.
Be at your most serious and loving self before adventuring to your nearest heart. Life is already precarious enough, I don't think we need anymore heart break love songs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): I completely agree with k c 100.. I can remember moving on too fast once thinking it would help, the guy I actually dated told me I was still hung up on the ex. He was right. Don't listen to friends you will know when your ready and over him
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (13 January 2012):
 How about starting to date again when YOU are ready, not when your friends dictate? Everyone has their own schedule and you are basically going through a mourning period, let that happen and you'll know when you're ready.
I would suggest you keep busy with friends and family and keep yourself healthy. Nurture yourself and don't turn to bad habits as a way to relieve the pain or stress you feel. Find the things that make you so blissful you forget what time it is, things that absorb and interest you. Eat well, watch the alcohol intake (if any) and exercise.
Eventually, you'll know when you are ready.
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reader, totallyconfused100 +, writes (13 January 2012):
 I tried online dating and wasn`t over my ex and the guy really liked me but I didn`t feel the same so we dated for 2 weeks and I had to eventually dump him and was obviously hurt. I wouldn`t recommend dating anyone until at least 6 months then maybe try online dating. A good way to get over an ex is to try find someone new as it takes your mind off your ex especially if you care for the new person.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (13 January 2012):
 Quite simply - NO!!
It is completely unfair to date anyone new when you still have feelings for someone else, because you will never be able to reciprocate their feelings when it is your ex that you are still hung up on.
2 months is not long to be single, wait at least 3-6 months before you think about dating again and make sure you are 100% over your ex. Then there will be no issues and no drama if you do meet someone that ends up really liking you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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