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writes:so me and my boyfriend had a little break up cause i wasnt treating him good enough.well we was texting today and he didnt txt me back for 5 hours. then he text me and ask if i wanna go to the movies i said yea sure. so we was on our way to the movies and he droped his phone and then turned it back on and i seen it and he has another picture of a girl as his background i was PISSED! i was ready to come back home i wouldn't talk to him or let him hug or kiss me or nothing. so then when i got home i texted him and asked him about it. he said he showed his cousin the pic of her and on the phone he has the pictures are little so he had to make the picture his background so it would be full sreen and his cousin could see it. he told me i could even ask the girl and his cousin and they both will say he isnt dating her. i have the girl as a friend on facebook. should i ask her or trust him?
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reader, soon567 +, writes (14 January 2011):
He's full of...Leave everyone out of your relatiOnship but the two of you. You have nothing to prove he does. He could have easily told you about it if it was innocent. I wouldn't ask anyone about this except him. I can enlarge picture on my cell double the sizes without making it a wallpaper. I am not saying he's lying but this isn't the truth or not all of it. I bet she was whom he was planning on being with after your break or during your break, he moves very fast to the next. If you keep this one then expect to be cheated on a few times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): It's not nice when your mind goes crazy over something like this. The fact you are doubting him says you aren't really believing what he is saying to you.
The most sensible thing to do is do what he says and ask his cousin and ask her. Explain to your boyfriend how it made you feel and why it made you feel that way.
If you don't ask them then you have to accept what your boyfriend says as the truth and if ever in the future you doubt him then you will remember that you didn't ask his cousin and the girl what was going on and you will end up regretting it.
Put your mind at rest by asking them. You'll feel better. Good luck.
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reader, Dataluke  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 Normally I would say give him the benefit of the doubt, but its better to be sure in this case. Discreetly ask the girl if they are together. It would be a good idea to ask his cousin as well.
If you find that they are together then tell him you know and give him a chance to explain himself. After that its up to you.
If they aren't together then you must try and trust him.
I hope it works out.
All the best, Dataluke
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 Dont embarrass yourself by discussing this on face book where is your self respect? you will end up looking like a dil.
Communication at any age must be face to face! this is of upmost importance. Texting or emailing DOES NOT cut it when it comes to sorting out issues of any sensitvie nature.
Face to face is sorted alot quicker than dragging it out waiting for replies, shit why do it to yourself - just sort it out.
Be an adult and talk to him face to face. If things dont improve then move on.
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reader, auntieloulou +, writes (14 January 2011):
 i think this is one of those situations where you kind of get an instinct and you know deep down what to do.
so you could ask the girl on facebook, see what she has to say, unless you can just take his word (and his cousins word) and let it go. was it just a picture, or was it more seedy? its not like you'e found texts that they have been sending each other, your boyfriends explanation of why the picture is his screen saver actually sounds believable.
let him know that your a little upset about it and want to know the truth. the truth always prevails in the end. you will find out at some point.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (14 January 2011):
What, so your boyfriend made a picture of a girl his background picture on his phone so he could show it to his cousin? That sounds a bit strange to me. Maybe he got with this girl when you two broke up? You say you didn't treat him good enough so maybe he did find someone else in that time?
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