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writes:Ok so I started dating my boyfriend for two and a half months and I got pregnant. He's 20 and I'm 18. We decided to keep it and its been a whole year that we've been together and our daughter is 3 months old today. So heres the problem, I recently found some old pictures of my boyfriend and his ex girlfriend together on his email address that he forgot to delete. He said he didn't even know there were pictures on his email address and he seemed like he was telling the truth but I'm not sure. I'm starting to think about how he might not be over his ex girlfriends, plus I read that when guys talk trash about their ex's that means they're not over them and my boyfriend did that a lot in the beginning of our relationship.Since I got pregnant early in our relationship I feel like I didn't get to experience life with him since we had to put everything aside and take care of our daughter. I'm jealous that his ex girlfriends got to be with him without having a kid. I feel like I only got to experience a small part of him if you understand what I mean. Ive tried talking to him and telling him how I feel about it but he gets mad whenever i talk about his ex girlfriends. He was with one ex girlfriend for like 8 months and she broke his heart (literally) he told me he spent days in his closet crying. He was with the other ex girlfriend for like 4 months and there relationship was mostly about sex (so he says)they never had any kids together so I'm thinking that hes just staying with me because we have a kid.I love my boyfriend so much and don't want to lose him and he says he loves me all the time. He also says I think too much and its true but I cant help it. And also he has one of his ex girlfriends as a friend on myspace and facebook (the one that broke his heart). He says that they became friends after the break up and he doesn't even talk to her so why have her as a friend?Any answers would be nice to ease my mind a little.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys. You made me feel a whole lot better about the situation. Although my bf and I had a huge argument this morning about his exes. We'll get through it and hopefully I can stop caring about his past and look onto our bright future with our wonderful daughter. Thanks again :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2011): If you are not careful your sense of insecurity could drive you apart. The problem is that, after only a short time together you have the committment of a baby. You did not have much chance to really get to know each other before events took over. Most people have ex's, whether or not they keep in contact. That is not a problem in itself. But you feel insecure basically because you feel he is with you because of the baby. Try and relax a bit. Certainly don't continually quizz him about his exs. A confident person is an attractive person, an insecure person can seem needy so work at believing in yourself and that he is with you because he wants to be with you.
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