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*rauleinFrankfurter
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months and we live together. For the first few months, everything was so perfect, and we still have a very close, intimate relationship, which is everything I have ever wanted. Very early on, my boyfriend told me that he loved me. I love him too, but at that early stage in the relationship (I had recently broken up with my ex), I felt it was too early to say anything, although I told him how much he means to me. Now he is constantly saying that he feels more for me than I do for him, which definitely is not true. He had always warned me that he has a bad temper, but recently some of the smallest things have set him off. Last night he flew into such a rage that he trashed our flat and told me to leave in the morning. He says the most horrid things when he is angry, and seems to know exactly how to hurt me the most. When he is in this mood he won't let me say anything, not even open my mouth. I feel humiliated that I am tolerating this, but our life together is so wonderful when he is not angry, I am wondering if it is worth putting up with him being like this sometimes, but I don't know how much more my heart can take.If I leave him, I know I may regret it for the rest of my life as he also makes me happier than I have ever been.
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reader, why i am alone  +, writes (8 November 2008):
Hi dear!!!
you should calmly discuss it with him when he is in a good mood.If he is not ready to change his attitude, tell him that you are leaving...........I am sure he will change himself if he truly loves you.
Best of luck
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reader, boo22  +, writes (8 November 2008):
 Hi honey, i left a man similar to what you describe about 12 months ago. I've never been more sure of anything when i say that he will not change without professional help, and maybe not even then. You will end a nervous wreck, treading on egg shells all the time as not to upset him. He will probably become violent towards you in the end. I'm sad to hear this is the happiest you've ever been. Believe me you deserve better. Good luck with it xx
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reader, babomi  +, writes (7 November 2008):
 yes, it s personal anger management issue he has and it s not something you can fix don t let things go downhill and start a dynamics of anger and apologies that will mean less and less every time, better test him now get some info about anger management groups in your neighborhood fast and put it in front of him when he s on a good day, even if better if you can leave immediately for a few days without contact, it d be even more efficient to let him realize what he has to lose
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): Order him to get anger managment or your leaving, and mean it.
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