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I'm in love with my mother's first cousin - and her pantyhose. Will I ever stop loving her?

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Question - (7 November 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 10 November 2008)
A male Greece age 41-50, *.skiles writes:

I am 28 years old currently living in Greece.As of now I'm in a wonderful relationship with this girl that is the same age of me and we are planning on getting married.....but to get to the point

I'm also in love with my mother's first cousin(making her technically my aunt).

Unfortunately ,this has been going on for maybe 12 years.Of course I haven't dared expressing my feelings to anyone;not even friends.Nobody will understand and I can see why.

This woman..lets call her G...has captivated my mind and my heart.It hasn't affected the way i viewed my few relationships(2) but I have to say that my current girlfriend and G are the only two women I truly love.

It's the way we communicate,her smile,her thoughts her sense of humor,her intelligence.

Basically we live in different cities over here in Greece about 300km apart.Yet whenever I see her ( i don't see her quite oftenly) my love and desire for her is burning.

I am going to describe a sequence of events that happened during the past three years.Basically sometimes she visited my parents house and i happened to be there where we'd usually talk and as of recently her husband was my brother's best man at his wedding.

G is 40 years old,married and has two children.

Three years ago I was with my current girlfriend outside of a bar until we bumped on a high school classmate of mine who I hadn't seen for quite some time.While we were talking my girlfriend was from my left,suddenly I felt the hardest pinch on my ribs.I turned to my right,nobody was there;immediately to my left and it was G with her husband that had walked right by us.

I called her name;she turned back and smiled and they said hey.Maybe they felt awkward seeing me with my girlfriend..i dont know....but it was the hardest pinch I've ever received.

A few years later,i was at her house;my desire for her had grown enormously...not because of that pinch but because I was falling in love with her.I had to get close to her somehow someway ;since I lived very far away from her...I asked her to give me some worn pantyhose of her's.Of course the excuse was "I needed them to make some filters for some computers".I did this twice in a span of a year and she had given me 4 pairs of her pantyhose.AS you understand I also happen to be a pantyhose fetishist.

Meanwhile,i keep complementing her.We were looking at some pictures and she told me she doesnt like her self in pictures,but i fire back that she is photogenic and very beautiful.While her husband was there also along with my parents.

At my brothers wedding,she was so astonishing I told her she was a goddess.

As of recently I happened to have dinner with this now 40 year old celebrity here in Greece which is considered very HOT for her age(personally i dont like her).

The other day,at my nephews baptism,we were there.G,her husband my parents and a few others and we were having a celebration dinner.

I was sitting next to her...and I told her that I had dinner with that celebrity and that she doesnt stand a chance compared to G.She seemed very thrilled and told me you should say that to my husband.Everyody listened to it,and it was abit awkward..though i did tell her husband that he was very lucky.

All in all,G has been the prototype of a woman that I'd want.The sex factor is not so much in play here.I'm talking about deep love and admiration of who and what she is.

The questions that keep popping in my mind many.Has she figured it out that I have a crush on her?What did she think when i asked her to give me some of her used pantyhose.She knew I had a girlfriend that time and perhaps i couldve asked some from her.

At the dinner party,she was wearing a skirt and pantyhose. I was sitting next to her; i had my hand on my right knee and she happened to cross her legs in such a way that her leg was touching my fingers,.I didnt move them..until she moved her leg in ...2 minutes.

Is this all part of my own fantasy world and how i interpret perhaps innocent moves? I can't tell if there is any motive or if she has figured me out and she is just teasing me.

Finally,do you consider it a good idea if i told her how I felt for her all these years? What kind of a reaction can I expect.I really feel I need to get this off my chest,though I will never stop loving her.

Thank you for your time and I'm really looking forward to your response!

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A male reader, s.skiles Greece +, writes (10 November 2008):

s.skiles is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you very much for your reply.I really appreciate it since I'm trying to gauge opinions on the matter.

Im seriously considering telling her how I feel.I just hope she doesnt freak out.

How do you think she has interpreted my reactions towards her..like always looking to talk to her,complimenting her and even when i asked her to give her pantyhose.

Is it possible she just sees this as...something like NOTHING...or could she have sensed my crush on her and just keeping it to that?

I mean even yesterday..we were together at this wedding dinner party;i was sitting next ot her and I had my fingers on my left knee.she crossed her legs and my fingers could feel her pantyhosed right thigh.I didnt move my fingers and she didnt move until she had to go.(that happened for 5 mins)

Whats going on here?

Thanks for listening by reading :)

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A female reader, blackroses2989 United States +, writes (7 November 2008):

blackroses2989 agony auntThe only advice I can give you is this. while most people find it odd because your family, it seems to me you truely love her. I think that you should tell her, but start suttle. When its just you and she, tell her that you have always admired her as a woman and that she has meant a lot to you through out your life. Anywho I wish you good luck! You are so fortunate to find two people you love so much!

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