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writes:For a while now, I've been going to a local coffee shop where this really cute girl works. I finally built up the balls to ask her for her number, and we exchanged numbers. We were texting for a while yesterday, and next Wednesday (5 says from now) we are going out for lunch. I want to talk to her more before then, but I don't want to come off as pushy. Should I text/call her today? Or should I let her call me first? Advice?
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reader, diamondshards  +, writes (18 August 2012):
You want to talk to her more, right? Then just go for it! As a woman, I love for a guy to SHOW his interest in me, how my day goes and all that good jazz. Sure, don't proceed to spend seven hours on the phone with her every day up until your date and then text her all night, but a phone call every couple of days and a nice, casual text every now and then is ALWAYS welcome, trust me on that. Make her feel important and cherished, most women are in the very least going to be flattered by it. Like I said, they key is to do so in a balanced way. Don't be one of those guys who have to wait five days after taking a woman on a date to call her again- that's a real turn off, because it tells me that you're either extremely busy or are playing it like a game, which screams insecure. Never a good thing. Be a man and follow your heart.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (17 August 2012):
 You can text or call her to show her that you're definitely interested, but don't overdo it. In my opinion, there is nothing worse than a guy who comes off as "clingy" in the very beginning of a potential relationship. Maybe just keep it casual, like asking her what she's got planned for the weekend or something simple like that. Then I would give a day or two before I would contact her again. Like I said, don't come across as clingy, which could possibly scare her off.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (17 August 2012):
 Call or text they are both communication types lol you should if you interested before others start texting and flirting and dating
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (17 August 2012):
 If you want to call her then you should. It shows confidence as well as being able to take charge and shows you like her. Pushy is when you call too much or text too much. For instance she doesn't answer, you then proceed to call every half hour. Or you send 5 texts before she gets the chance to respond to one. Or you say you love her before you even get to know her. Aside from all of that, a simple phone call because you want to talk is sweet :) I would have loved for a guy to do that rather than be too nervous or hate talking on the phone. Just be yourself always.
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reader, starstrukkx3  +, writes (17 August 2012):
 I would just call or text her, but be casual about it so you don't come across as obsessive or something like that. ;D Just casually mention the upcoming lunch, ask her if she's looking forward to it, how she is, what she's doing, etc, but keep it light-hearted and simple so you can really get to know eachother at lunch. :-)
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