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writes:I am in love with a teacher at my school! and I really like him but he isnt good lookin well not really anyway! but he has some kind of sense to him that makes me love him. he is my wallpaper on my fone and i think of him all the time before i go to sleep and when i go to sleep and all day. I go round school looking for him, just so he smiles at me! What can i do? do i speak to him about it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): hey i guess you could say what you went throung well i went through the exact same thing.like you i really fancied my teacher and he was really nice to me and alwayse smied at me and we got on really well. and after a while i really started to fancy him. i was really confused on what to do and never told any of my friends because i new that they would tell him or someone else. ept it all to myself and that was a really bad idea. it was coming up to the end of my school time and i new that i would never see him again so i done somethig about it. i wrote a letter and on my very last day just as i was about to go home i put the letter in his planner and left. i had put my email adresse in the letter incase he wanted to get hold of me. he did and we talked about thing. he admitted he like me to and now we are still going out.so what i hope you can take away from this story is, just go with what you think is right and for you it will wor out great in the end.good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): aww i need help aswell but im not considering telling my teacher, but yet i think he has an idea that i like him though, i think it might be a bad idea to tell him though
i really like one of my teachers aswell and we were on a trip with school and i got loads of pics with him and then i think about him constant and am always talking about him and looking around and waiting for him and stuff, but hes married and hes like 50+ and everyone says hes not good looking but hes not really but that doesnt bother me hes a good person so i dont really mind we get on great cause we have so much in common im obsessed with him really am i stupid or mad or what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): well i think if you love your teacher it can sometimes be hard some people love someone for the rerason of being around them too much thts how i was with one of my teachers, i mean i still kinda like him but im slowly getting over it coz he was all happy with me but one day he was annoyed and i was laughing at someone (not him) but he turned around and shouted at me and he said sorry later on in the day, but now we dont speak i just want to be back to normal where he smiled at me winked at me and always said hello. wen i went to parents eveing he couldnt take his eyes off me and i only know tht coz wen ever i looked over he looked away as if he wasnt looking at me but one time i caught him. so girls i know it can be hard but fight for wat you want, just be careful of risks you are taking xx
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reader, patricia shalab  +, writes (21 May 2009):
 the same thing is going with me
i love my math teacher and i rly can't live without him he think im wierd cuz i act diffrent in his class, cuz i rly got shy infront of him. i can't just say whatever i want. i have him on msn and i love to see him online he got upset very fast but still i love him. i think if u love him u have to tell him cuz this love that ur trying to hide in ur harte will turn it to tears and soon every one will know and im still watting till the write time i could tell him i love him so do like me and let him know how u feel and how much do u need him beside u. cuz even if he think ur not the right pesone, he will never then try to brake u as he did for me.
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reader, HopeLoveFaith  +, writes (15 February 2009):
NO! NO! NO!
Please, tell me you havn't told you teacher you have feelings for him. I read this article on dear cupid. It was a teacher asking for advice on how to get his student to leave him ALONE. And at the very end of the message he wrote; do not tell your teachers you are in love with them.
Think about it, it makes you seem like a weirdo, and if he's married, that's even worse. DO NOT DO IT. You will get into so much trouble with the school. They'll probubly have a talk with you about being innapropriate. It will turn into a whole innapropriate mess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): sorry, but having your teacher as your wallpaper on your fone is umm ... weird ... and how did you get a picture of him?you don't love him, you have a crush on him, it's not the same thing (see my article ;; "Do you love your teacher?"). but you seriously need to move on, before you fall too deep and get too into him, because you can never have him, and it's most likely that you never will. trust me, personal experience.as said in a previous reply, there are loads of boys your own age, and that's not illegal ...
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reader, xxRebeccaxx +, writes (26 January 2009):
Its the exact same with me!!!
I absolutly adore my teacher! Well ex teacher, and i cant get him out of my head!! I walk past his classroom just to catch a glimpse of him! But the strange thing is that i dont fancy him!!!!!! He is married too! I talk about him all the time to my friends. And only one of them knows how i feel! And she feels the same way!! I know you have written anonymously but please message me back so we can talk about this!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): omg i am in exactly the same situation.
my old geography teacher is uuuugggllyy! lol but its really weird because i dont have a crush on him.
im in love with him, and i know this is love because i havn't felt this way about anyone before.
dont tell him though, do what i do, in a way, be flirty towards him but dont make it obvious.
he told me i was 'beautiful' and he made me feel so special because i swear he feels the same way about me as he is always flirting with me..
but he's got a wife, he even announced that he's getting married in the middle of a geography lesson. i was clapping and everything but deep down inide i felt like killing myself.
i need help aswell..
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): we're in the same situation. i love my teacher, also. until now. i told him that i loved him. he admitted to me that it's hard on his part because he is a teacher and of course he is afraid of losing his job because of me. i can't do anything about it. i know that it's hard, but i'm really trying to move on.
it's up to you if you want to tell him that you love him. in the end, it's your choice that matters.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (15 December 2008):
 Dont tell him he is your teacher and i dont think he would feel the same infact he would loose his job if he did.
You need to stop looking for him and stop thinking about him there are plenty of boys in school who are more your age. Nothing will come of this so stop wasting your time and stop wasting your hopes on him it wont happen. If you told him how you feel it would just make things awkward and could even get you in trouble.
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reader, Ameiya +, writes (15 December 2008):
Please, whatever you do, do NOT tell him!
I had a mad (and it was a BIG) crush on one of my teachers once. I spent 2 years deliberating on whether or not I should tell him. I gave him signs...but I never told him. Now i've move on to sixth form...and hes nearly out of the picture. Yes, I still do randomly think about him, but more about the great time we spent together.
You will find someone else to take your mind off him. Dont let him rule your life...because nothing can come of it.
Be good sweetie..and be careful. Believe in fate...but dont let your heart take control of your actions.
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reader, MommyOfOne +, writes (15 December 2008):
 No. Don't say anything. It could cause a lot of problems for you AND the teacher...
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reader, lover boy  +, writes (15 December 2008):
well honey its TIME U GET UR PRIORITIES RITE...... ur teacher is simply not made for u.......its just ur infatuation nothing else.....take care thnk about it........
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): It is a very, very bad idea to tell him your feelings, hun. It could lead to a lot of potential embarrassment, and you could get into trouble. Please just keep it to yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): right now you may think you love him and that you cannot live without him... but in time you will change and realise that he is definately not the one!
"I really like him but he isnt good lookin well not really anyway!" I am not judging you and i totally understand this situation may be difficult for you but if you truly loved him then it wouldnt matter if he was good looking or not... maybe it is a a school girl crush... most people experience this!
if i were you i would stay clear of telling him how you feel... your parents have put trust into your school and teachers to protect you and a relationship is totally out of the question... it is illegal.
i am being blunt i know and you may think i am being harsh but nothing good would come of you telling him... this will just make it awkward between you!
I personally think having a teacher as your background on your phone is quite weird but thats your decision... but what would your parents or friends say if they were to see?
i think the best thing to do is to put aside your feelings and forget that you love him and after awhile you will just see him as a teacher
hard i know but you really havent got another option!
good luck, i hope i could help x
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