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writes:I have a problem, I really like this boy, but he already has a girlfriend. I knew that he liked me a while ago, but at the time I was going out with someone else and I didnt fancy him. The problem is that he is my friend and we are quite close, so I dont feel I can tell him or it might put our friendship at risk if I do say something. What do you think I should do?
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 Say "How are you and your girlfriend doing?" If he says anything better than okay or alright (like excellent, or I'm so happy with her, etc) it is clear you shouldn't make any moves or let him know how you feel right then. If he does say "we are okay" or something to that effect, just converse with him about the relationship, get a feel for how he feels about her. If he seems indifferent towards her, I would ask "So, hey, remember how you used to like me??" In a joking kind of way, see how he responds. It's hard to tell you what to do without knowing his responses to the questions. Basically if he is happy with his girlfriend, leave it alone. If in any way you think he sounds like he still has feelings for you, let him know your feelings. Or you can be balls to the wall and just tell him upfront, but it risks hurting your feelings. I doubt it would ruin the friendship though, if his girlfriend were to find out however... She could put a ban on you. It's best to see how he feels about this girl before proceeding. Maybe not have the conversation all at once? Ask how their relationship is going and report back to us for further instructions, lol. Good luck!
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