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writes:Yesterday,I was so tired and my sister and her hubby arrived to the hospital to see my step-dad. So my sister said, go home and rest. We'll stay here for couple of hours. So her hubby, hates the hospital and he offered to take me home. So i was like ok (even thou, i had my car- i didnt feel like driving). So my sis told him, bring me something from starbucks..so he was like ok. So when he and i were in our way to the car we saw my bro. and said that he'd be at the hospital for 4-5 hrs. So, I was like ok. So my sis husband and i went to the house and went to my room (it's normal for us to go to our rooms u know)...so i layed on bed and he lyed in bed too. I was like go to starbucks and take my sis her drink...and he would just ignore me.. and be like yeah.... anyway, he stared caresing my hair and said he used to have a dog...and I was like motha fucka...u calling me a dog! but we kid around like that. But then I remember that my sister said that when they started going out he told her the same thing. So i was like...there's something funny here. then i got up and he got up.. But i stood up in the bed and he carried me on his back...and i was like horsy horsy..BUT I THOUGHT WE were playing... We always play with him and my sister. and then he let me drop on the bed, but remind u i was looking at his back...and he fell on top of me. He was pulling my legs...as to carry me again...and i was just like screaming, like crazy...like leave me alone...jokenly. BUT THEN i noticed his touched kinda changed,,more like grabing my upper part of my leg (i guess its called the thigh) and it was a different kinda touch-like erotic. Like heavy...I was just moved my legs quickly...and he turned and looked at me...and gave a differen kinda look that scared me...I felt scared! It was like that kinda sexual look, like when a man is ready to u know what! and he looked at me and said "no te gusto?" like don't u like me? I was like Don't say that! So i got out of the house running with no shoes. and i just heard his big all laugh... as i was runing out. I think he laughed as to made it seem he was joking...But I know he wasn't!and then he went after like 2min and asked if i wanted to go to starbuks, he insisted.I said Nah, im too tired. I CAME TO REST....and insisted more...but i didn't Should I tell my sister????
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reader, eddie  +, writes (6 October 2008):
 He made a move on you and that is wrong. You're wrong and too old to be playing touchy feely games with another man. It sounds like you're way to comfortable with him. I don't really know too many people your age who do the riding on the back thing. It is a little too close. You didn't like it this time but you never really set boundaries before either. He's a jerk for trying but you have to keep men at a distance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): Hello, sorry for your situation, I think you had a very good reaction given the situation, but you are in a very difficult position right now, and whatever you do you'll probably end up looking bad.
I don't know what type of relationship you've got with your sister, but unless it's a completely honest and trustful relationship and she'll be sure you wouldn't lie to her, i wouldn't tell her.
The most likely is that she won't believe you, if she loves her husband she'll be in denial and won't believe him capable of doing something like that. So you'll end up like a liar, someone trying to destroy her hapiness or you could even end up like the one who made the move on him.
The saddest part is that if he did that with his wife's sister I very much doubt that he's behaving well around other women and that's awful because he is even risking the life and health of your sister.
He's such a $%"%$# how can he act that way?
You can pretend that you in deed though he was joking, there's no point in acting differently, if confronted he'll probably deny it and say that he was joking or that you provoked him and he'll probably just put his guard up and slowly start turning your sister against you (because you know "his secret" so he will try to discredit you, like lawyers do to witnesses on trials).However no more physical playing with the guy or something he might misinterpret.
Again, it all depends on the relationship with your sister, maybe it won't be so hard telling her. You could bring up in the conversation one day you are talking alone with her, that the other day when hw left you from the hospital he told you he used to have a dog and started caressing your hair and you just found it weird, if that's the way they started some light will probably turn on for her, depending on her reaction, you can tell her the rest of the story, and depending on her reaction you can end with "I thought I should let you know" or "he was probably joking, but he made me feel unconfortable".
Since it's probably not the only time he's been playing around, your sister should be "attentive" and if she starts spotting more strange things she should talk to him or catch him in the act (with someone else and not you).
Those are just a few ideas, hope something helps. I'm worried about your sister, I hope it had just been your idea (not that is very likely), but as for you, draw the line with the guy without being rude or anything.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): I am not sure at this stressful time in your family's life that you should tell your sister... but I would sure try to stay away from her husband, or always be with others. If it happens again, let him know point blank that he is your BROTHER-IN-LAW, and then if he still doesn't stop, you should try as gently as possible to let sis know things aren't comfortable between you and her husband. God, what a mess! You poor baby! But I personally wouldn't want to hurt my sister unless there was no other way, you know?
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