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writes:When I graduated I moved into an apartment with my sister and her friend. By the time my sister got married her friend and I had gotten to be very close. After my sister moved out we stayed together as roommates and I want to make it clear that we became very good friends and that there was never anything intimate between the two of us. We both dated. We lived together for ten years. I started dating a woman who I later married who wasn't comfortable with my living arrangements at first but she came around. After some time I became good friends with her brother. I introduced him to my roommate. This was some years ago and now they are married and I am married to his sister. He has recently told me that he cheated on his wife. I told my wife. She doesn't want to get involved and asked that I don't say anything either. I feel horrible and I feel like I should say something. She is now my sister in law. We are very close and he has accused her of having an affair with me before. I think this may be why he told me because he wants to see if I will tell her and say that I only told her so I could have her to myself. Why is it so hard for people to believe that a man and woman can live together for as long as we did and just be friends? Should I tell my sister in law?
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reader, TimmD +, writes (25 March 2010):
 No win situation, man. If the thought of your friend finding out you knew and being hurt is more scary then any reaction your brother in law might have then tell her. If you think he may be bluffing to get a reaction out of you try confronting him again. Who cares what he thinks whether something is going on between you too. As long as your wife trusts you that's all that matters.
Keep your wife number one in this, your friend #2, and this other guy #3. Screw him.
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reader, rotarosca  +, writes (21 March 2010):
Dont tell your sister in law anything. Let them settle their issues themselves. Dont get involved or you may end up regreting it as he may deny he ever told you anything and turn the tables around on you. Just walk away
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