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writes: hiya, I'm 15 and a lil confused. I'm not really sure, but I think I maybe bi-curious. It may just be a phase I'm going through? Should I tell my parents or keep it to myself until I'm totally sure? Thank you x Reply to this Question
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reader, well-help  +, writes (2 June 2009):
 im the same as you
but i need to try things out before im sure
and if you feel they need to know when your sure or not tell them because ifyou tell them and you end up not being well it could leave to a whole lot of problem that were in the end uncalled for could just be our age explore yourself find out who you are before you tell people what you think you are. :)
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reader, hushed haley  +, writes (13 June 2008):
 hey, i am 14 and i know i am bisexual. i told my parents not to long ago and ever since then they hav been wanting to talk about it. But the thing is that im not ready to talk about it with them. i regretted telling my parents cuz now i always feel uncomftuble around them when im watching tv and a girl in bathing suit or some thing comes up. if you are ready to tell them i say go for it and you will be surprised as to how understanding they can be. i hope i helped and tell me wat you desise to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): I'm going through the same problem I'm also 15 n I have a girlfriend that I'm seriously inlove with.... my parents don't know yet but there starting to get a pretty good idea that I am... I think u should make sure u r first b4 u say anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): i think you should keep it to your self untel you know for sure...because it might be hard to tell them your not after you did...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2007): see you might be confused but it's ok to be bi-curious but
I dont think you should tell your parents untill your shur aboutyour sexual oreantation plus they dont need to know every lil detail about your life, and if you do want to tell your parents you are bi make shur that you tell them at a good time and everything is ok in the famliy and they will exsept you so my anser is if your redy.
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reader, little_miss  +, writes (27 January 2007):
 Although u should really understand what your true feelings r first "is this just a phase" to do this just ask your heart it'll tell u. and once you've made a decision well it depends on u and how open your parents are.
i'm bi mysellf and if i told my p's they'd flip but that doesn't mean your's will do the same. it depends on how stong your relationship is and if you can deal and cope with your parents knowing this. it means they may look at u as a different person possibly not even believe u, where the "just a stage" comes into play. But i've had a few people turn their back on me after i told then and some who have become even better friends, just depends.
See what your heart says and be true to yourself.
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reader, little_miss +, writes (27 January 2007):
Although u should really understand what your true feelings r first "is this just a phase" to do this just ask your heart it'll tell u. and once you've made a decision well it depends on u and how open your parents are.
i'm bi mysellf and if i told my p's they'd flip but that doesn't mean your's will do the same. it depends on how stong your relationship is and if you can deal and cope with your parents knowing this. it means they may look at u as a different person possibly not even believe u, where the "just a stage" comes into play. But i've had a few people turn their back on me after i told then and some who have become even better friends, just depends.
See what your heart says and be true to yourself.
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reader, piano_boy090 +, writes (18 February 2006):
Sorry but it's prlly not "just a phase" if you really are attracted to the same sex then you most likey are gay or "bi" who knows but i wouldn't tell your parents yet...wait until you're "sure" well good luck.:)
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reader, willywombat +, writes (13 February 2006):
 I think you are all slightly underestimating the parents on this one!
Why encourage a kid not to confide in their parents if they have a *problem or even a dilemma like this? Not everyone has parents who are idiots, some people have parents who can offer good and sound advice. After all I would prefer my child to come to me rather than a bunch of strangers on a message board.
By not telling the parents in this case you are sending signals that your sexuality is something you ahve to *keep quiet about*. How about that for confusing somebody.....
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reader, not again +, writes (12 February 2006):
i wouldn't tell them. Heaps of people have feelings for both sexes when they're young- some of these feelings lead to actual experimentation/ relationships and some don't. But' I'm with the others on this one. There is no need to talk about this with your parents. I think you only need to do this if you find yourself in a long term/ serious relationship with someone.... and even then it's your choice!! Good luck and have fun.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (12 February 2006):
Why not have a chat with your parents, if you are lucky enough to have parents who are open minded enough to sit and talk to you about your sexuality.
They may have some valuable advice to give you, as well as being able to support you thru any problems and pressure you may be under.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2006): Hiya. Do you know for certain that you're bi-sexual yet? Some people just look at other people of the same sex just to get familiar with themselves, you don't even realize you're doing it. If you're pretty sure, then just sit your parents down and tell them you think you're bi-sexual. There's nothing wrong with it. They love you for who you are and they'll be glad you told them. Anyway, you'd rather that rather tell them yourself than have them find out another way, wouldn't you!?
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reader, chrissymarie +, writes (12 February 2006):
 hey i am 16 and i am bi sexual, ive been bi since i was 11 years old, ive keep it from my parents for 3 years, i didnt tell them that i was intil i was sure about it.... if you want to tell them go ahead, just put it stright at them and be like i think i maybe bisexual, they cant really do much about it its ur way of life not theres, but maybe it would be best for you to wait intil you are sure that way you dont have drama and find out that your not, no one can really tell you the right advice on this question you are the one has to make this choice up..... well good luck!
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reader, Bev Conolly +, writes (12 February 2006):
 Well, your sexuality doesn't really count in this context (that is, coming out to your parents), until you're sure about it. Anything less than "this is ME!" is pretty much speculation and unnecessary drama.
Lots of people your age experiment with their sexuality, but usually find that they're attracted either to one or the other by their early 20s.
Your folks don't need to know about your current confusion and, what's more, you don't have to have their approval for your sexuality (whatever it turns out to be). Take things slowly for your own sake. At 15, there really isn't any pressing need for you to be having sex with anyone, so there's no rush to define your sexual orientation either.
Rest assured that what you're going through is very common and will resolve itself in a few years, if not sooner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2006): Don't submit your parents to this kind of drama unless you think it's going to be a relatively permanent thing. No matter how progressive your parents are, hearing that their daughter is bisexual will turn their world upside down for some time - if you "revert" later, they'll be even more confused. So don't say anything until you're sure.
Every kid goes through a period of grappling with their sexuality, and good for you for keeping it at the forefront of your thoughts at this young age - a lot of people leave this until they're in their 40s and then "whoops! Gay after all!".
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