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writes:My friend and I kissed, we're both girls. I'm kind of confused about my sexuality. I mean, I like guys I know that but is it possible I like girls too? And should I tell my parents? The only problem is I dont want to complicate things when I'm so unsure myself. Please help. I dont know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, act-casual  +, writes (27 February 2011):
Just hold out until you're sure about your sexuality. There's no point in telling her and making a lot of fuss at home if it turns out that it's nothing.The same thing happened to me with my friend a couple of years ago. It turned out to be nothing (:, although we kiss a lot for the laugh in front of guys at parties, they freak out a little. At the end of the day, there's no point in worrying about it yet. Just go with the flow.Message me if ya ever need anything, x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI told my mom when I had my first kiss but that's it. I'm actually a little afraid of what my parents would say if I told them about kissing a girl. I highly doubt my mom ever kissed a girl, we've had very open conversations about dating sex relationships etc. Nowhere has she mentioned ever kissing a girl, I honestly think she would've told me. But one of the reasons I wouldn't want to tell her is that she won't let me be alone with any guys (except in public places, movie theaters, malls, the beach etc) and if she knew that there was a possibility of me being attracted to girls she'd blow it out of proportion. I don't know if I would be allowed to spend time with my friends alone anymore. She really doesn't trust me for some reason when it comes to these kinds of things.
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 If you were my daughter I would want to know what is going on in your life so I could know you better. If you tell them they might tell you something you never knew about them and you could become closer. I think if you feel your parents love you, why wouldn't you tell them? Why wouldn't you want them to know who you like enough to kiss? Do you tell them when you kiss boys? I am just one man but the thought never occurred to me to kiss another boy when I was your age or later but I would tell my parents about the girls I kissed. I learned a lot about my parents this way and it was fun.
It's been my experience that a lot of people believe being gay or lesbian is a choice. I do not believe this. I think if you like girls why wouldn't you want your parents to know who you are. Sooner or later it'll come out anyway. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself and enjoy being you. I wish you all the best.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (25 February 2011):
 Girls are soft and they smell good whats not to like? That doesn't make you gay. At this age your hormones would probably respond the same way to almost anyone you were close to that gave you a gentle loving kiss or touch.
Try not to let it confuse you. The only danger I see here is that what you do now could and will shape who you become tomorrow. So maybe until your older or more sure of yourself and your own sexuality you should limit your experimentation with other girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you! one of the only things is this isn't the first time its happened but ive decided to just wait and see how i feel in the future :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): Naw, there's no need to tell them. It was just a kiss and it's normal to experiment at your age. It is possible that you like girls too but only time will tell.
It's not a big deal, pretty much every woman has kissed another girl when they were teenagers. I experimented with guys when I was a teenager and I'm heterosexual. Don't worry about it, confusion is part of being a teenager. Things get clearer as you get older and your parents don't need to know this because it's not a big deal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): I suggest you wait until you're older and you're more sure about your sexuality before you tell anyone.
It could be that you're just experimenting and when you're older you'll realise you're not attracted to girls at all. Or if you still are and realise you are bisexual and would like to date girls, that would be a better time to tell your parents.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 Theres no need to tell your parents. If you are unsure about your sexuality, give it time until you understand your feelings. It is common at your age to experiment.
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