| A
female
,
*adeudz
writes: HiHere goes..I recently started having feelings for a male friend who I have known for 16 years. Neither of us are currently in a relationship (both suffering the after effects of some horrendous break ups) and we get on really well.I have not expressed my feelings for him, but something tells me that he knows. Now I am at a loss as to what to do. My friends think he is playing games with me and there is evidence to support this theory. But I feel certain that he likes me too but I'm unsure of saying anything for fear of risking not only our friendship but another broken heart if he rejects me. I can't stop thinking about him and I feel the longer it goes on with neither of us saying anything, the worse it will get!Please help!!Should I tell him how I feel? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (22 August 2005):
All I'm gonna say is not telling him will keep tearin' ya up inside and you'll probably regret it later. If he's a great friend and great guy, I don't think it will ruin your friendship if he doesn't reciprocate. I mean, yall have been friends for 16 years, I'm sure you've gone through some awkward moments before this. You gotta think too that if you get into a relationship with anyone, you could have another broken heart. There's no guarantees. I think it's worth trying, since you have such an longlasting thing with him already.
"And why do we fall, Bruce? So we can learn to pick ourselves up." - Thomas Wayne
A
female
reader, amiee  +, writes (21 August 2005):
 heya hunni,
i know exactly how you feel as i am in a simlar situation, however you need to start thinking that if he is such a good friend that you say he is then he will listen to what you have to say and understand your feelings and together you can come up with an answer. the bothe of you should sit down and descuse eachothers feelings towards eachother.
its not fair on you to feel unsure, confused and in a way heart broken. plus if you feel he is feeling the same then theres a possibility that he is feeling the same. in that case its not fair on him either.
i honestly think your emotions are better off in the open then you and he can together some up with a sutible solution.
good luck and remember he is a good friend and should understand.
amiee xXx
...............................
|
