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writes: Not really a, relationship, dating, love or sex question, but tied in in a way.Any time I think about something I love actually showing signs they care about me, or just a friend, I get a weird feeling in my stomach, and a similar feeling in the joints of my fingers. I know its really, REALLY (?!) weird, but it doesn't make me clench its just a weird feeling in my joined, like my knuckles. Only on my right hand though...Any suggestions?! Reply to this Question
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reader, advice19  +, writes (19 July 2008):
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): Well, Gecko12, it sounds like a phobia that is not to uncommon. I feel you are basically a very private person. Nothing wrong with that, except when it interferes with some basic social skills and basic human feelings. If certain people are attracted to you, it means you have some "appealing traits". It may be you feel a little "inadequate" and don't want to "expose" yourself too much to other people. I think you should work on your own self-concept. You need more confidence in personal relationships,..not necessarily 'romantic', but in all contacts with other people. Gecko12, everyone is not sizing you up and down and analysing you as you may feel. Get to like yourself more. When you meet someone, say, "Hello! I am Gecko12, nice to meet you!" And drop the defensive "guard" when you are with people. It shows, and others will be uncomfortable talking to you. I think the "stomach and hand twinges" are psychosomatic. It is just a deflection of your personal shyness. Work on the shyness and the "twinges" may well disappear. I could talk more on this and give you some physical therapy excercises you can do on your own. You can PM me anytime and we can talk privately. Tom
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