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writes:Iv been in a relationship with a guy for some months now, we started dating when we were schooling together. We are happy together but the problem is, i have moved to a different country and i dont think i'll be returning due to some pesonal issues. He thinks i'll be returning. im afraid to tell him cuz he might end our relationship and im not sure i can live without him. i love him so much. Should i tell him? nd how? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mr. Y  +, writes (17 May 2012):
Hi,
If you tell him now, he will breakup and find someone else and you will find someone else.In this way both of you would be happy.Its always better than talking to him for 6 more months while holding a confusion in your mind.Tell him and don't cry even once about it because the rules of nature are made like this.Face them.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 May 2012):
 Honey you are already living without him. You are apart already. You MUST tell him.
You just need to tell him. I would do it over the phone or a video chat and NOT by text or email if you can.
and it's OK to cry when you do this.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 May 2012):
 Of course you have to tell him. What do you want to do, keep him hanging for 6 months, one year, two years etc ? Eventually he'll figure out that you are not coming back and have been wasting his time, and that you have lied to him, - he'll break up with you anyway, with more resentment and bitterness that if he had known the truth , and you'll have made a fool out of the person you say you love.
Show him the respect to give him a clear picture of the situation and let him decide with open eyes, if he wants to break up or wait for you.
And if he wants to break up- don't think it's the end of the world, you surely WILL survive, and you surely WILL meet someone else . In fact, at your age, even attempting an LDR is painful,foolish and doomed, with no money , freedom and time to visit often, and no definite plans to get reunited somewhere.
Some times life just decides for us- but , trust me, not necessarily when it happens it's a tragedy, it may be a blessing in disguise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2012): Yes you should tell him. A long distance relationship is hard and takes complete honesty. I can tell you from experience that finding out that someone you love has lied to you, by leading you to believe they will be returning when they don't think they will be, will definitely destroy any feelings he has for you. I know you love him and you don't think that you can live without him, but if you love him then you have tell him and let him decide if he wants to continue the relationship long distance. It is scary to think, but you have to be honest with him. Good Luck sweetie.
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